We did alot of mean things to each other. But i know he is not cheating right now. i can't understand why he doesn't answer his calls says he doesn't want to waste mins prepaid phone but he has over 1000 in bank? cards are like 32 dollars? we are seperated right now he got homw from military 3 weeks ago first week he planned on smashing my face in divorce court i just took his truck with police escort before he got home that i payed for. Next week we meet at a hotel just to talk. end up sleeping together next week he says you can't talk to me about anything but getting together our daughter or a divorce. Doesn't even want to eat with me before i go to meet him at hotel "i'm not dating you he says. i cry off and on for days i don't even want to go to his house to get childsupport at the advice of my conselor i do he says get the money be brief. Well he pays me one week and an extra week in advance for then he invites me to lunch and buys me clothes? I tell my conselor who previously
2007-12-11 15:32:21 · 10 answers · asked by poo~poo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
who didn't like him. My conselor tells me to wait about a divorce slow down. I want there to be hope because i still love my husband. And every week he gets nicer i don't know if it is guilt wants to end on good terms. He has always been good about the child support so thats not it. But he still won't answer his cell This is what caused our marriage to disenigrate in the first place he went into the military after we were 2-gether three yrs never called in ait or answered his phone. He is being nice to me lately but still not answering am i suppose to be patient this is hurting me so bad like i'm relieving what caused all of our problems and it's like he's oblivious. But he still wants to sleep with me and be friends 'no obligations between us he said whatever that means"
2007-12-11 15:36:54 · update #1
he is 35 and me 30
i have a 7 yr old previous marriage and we have a two yr old
2007-12-11 15:53:48 · update #2
He's obviously ignoring you...you may think you love him,but deep down you probably don't.He has nothing to offer you to secure you and he probably doesn't want to settle down and have a normal family life,he's ignoring you if he doesn't answer your phone calls,its obvious and right now what you really need is someone who will give you all the things you deserve and hopefully you will find that man one day.My advice is the sooner you stop seeing him and get over him,the better.
2007-12-11 16:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by iLikecheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me you should just forget about the jerk and move on with your life. He does not care about you. As far as sleeping with you... you don't have to love someone to sleep with them. Him not wanting to eat diner with you or anything.. he is just using you for sex so leave him alone.. he probably has another woman on the side is the reason for wanting the divorce. Leave him alone chic.. you can do much better than this jerk. Even tho you may be hurting inside.. never let him see you cry.. give him the impression that you do not care and that you will be just fine without him.. and you will be, you will find someone... but make sure that you make him help you support that baby. God bless and good luck
2007-12-11 15:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, he wants the fwb thing. A lot of ex's do this.. they just sleep with each other. No obligation means... just that. He's just a guy to lay with. He's not answering his phone, cuz maybe he's with someone else at that time? I wish I thought better of him, but I think maybe he still wants the divorce. I'm so sorry. Be tough and kick him out of your bed/ and your life and if it gets difficult... just know that it is his loss and not yours.
2007-12-11 15:44:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shouldn't try to call him. It's your choice if you sleep with him or not but realize that this may make things harder for you if you end up splitting up. Let him know you still care about him and would like to work things out but you need something besides sex to prove he does too, then give him his space. If he still loves you and wants to make things work he'll come to you.
2007-12-11 15:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting him use you. he is just a boy.
You are a beautiful woman who deserves better than he can ever give you.
Find a way to regain your self esteem and then meet a MAN who will treat you like a queen.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
2007-12-11 15:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think he wants to be with you.. Just sounds like he is playing games with you emotions... Just leave him be perhaps he is just being nice for the kids sake
2007-12-11 15:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recognize this. Some guys just hate the phone, that's all.
2007-12-11 15:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband does not want you, but selfishly, he wants you wanting him.. Dont play his games. Dont ring him and get on with your divorce
2007-12-11 15:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you asked this before and I'll tell you again.... STOP SLEEPING WITH HIM... HE IS USING YOU FOR OCCASIONAL SEX...
and GET A NEW COUNSELOR!!!
2007-12-11 16:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's horny. That's all. Guys don't attach sex to love.
Don't be so gullible.
2007-12-11 15:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by timniet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋