I can't stop being so insecure, what to do???

Question

I know I'm not ugly but I can't stop being so insecure about myself. Like one person can say one thing that is not the nicest about me, or it's not even a big deal what they say. I always fixate on the negatives instead of the positives. It's making me mad.

how can i change??

yes, fine self esteem. I have low self esteem and i let people affect the way I feel about myself. Do i do it on purpose? no, but please be ever so kind to tell me how you never let that affect you??

i do "act confident" I pretend it. i fake it and ppl believe it, but at the end of the day, i know it's not true.

Answer 1

read paula whites book you are all that. check out joyce meyers; you are special; negative in negative out; positive in and positive out;Joel osteen is exccellent;
Speak to your self as you wish to be.
You are very special;
It takes time to change and grow;
You are a victor and not a victem. be a friend to yourself;

Answer 2

face the things that make you feel insecure. if you feel insecure because of your weight go to group meeting or places where other ppl have the same problem . you say that you dont feel ugly but you still are insecure....then just accept yourself for who you are...everybody is diffrent and unique in their own way. nobody is perfect. why do you need to look like a model or a celebrity to feel good about yourself? god gifted everyone and im sure you are a beautiful person inside...so put that side of you out there and when you meet someone be confident and show them the best side of you. go to fitness classes to get healthy and try to make public speeches even if you feel that you cant...it really helps overcome insecurity and walk with your head up high...you are the way you are and people will see that. what good qualities you have some ppl may lack in that area. at the end the phisycal fades away but the emotional and the personality will be with you for ever!

Answer 3

Date a guy who relatively is conscious you and is prepared to paintings with you thru your lack of self assurance. affected person men who relatively such as you for you no rely what is going to stay with you whether you're insecure. each so often you will pass by some relationships until eventually now the best one comes alongside. seem for somebody who's understated, yet too cocky. somebody who is conscious, yet would not act like a jerk, reason jerks like one undertaking, rapid love then heartbreak. do no longer replace your insecurities only so relationships won't end, do no longer replace and enable the best guy discover you. good success.

Answer 4

Been there, done that!! And glad I'm over it!! You will not start living your life until you stop caring about what other people think. You only go around once and you are here for you & no one else. No one should judge you for what you look like or what you are (unless you are one of those annoying teenagers at the mall that makes a scene and irritates everyone :) ) It is not important what other people think of you, it's what you think about yourself. It took me so long to realize that . And one day the right person will see you and love you for who you are, flaws & all. I never dated in high school, was never asked to dances, never went to prom I was always the best friend of the guy everyone wanted to date, because I was athletic. Needless to say I married my first boyfriend. We started out as friends and loved hanging out together. Then it just grew to love. So hang in there and who cares what other people think. Chances are it's all in your head and no one is really thinkging what you think they are anyways. Good luck!!

Answer 5

Unless you are doing something wrong ( you know right from wrong) take peoples comments as-their right to believe what they want. You will never be able to please everyone. So make yourself happy first then everyone second
If you encounter a person that has a negative comment about your body or looks simply tell them 'I am sorry you feel that way and I may take that into consideration next time I want to make a change, thank you.'

Answer 6

Ask yourself--"what if?"
How do you wanna go---ppl at your funeral saying "he was sooo shy, i hardly knew him", or your friends sayin "what a crazy mofo he was". You were just like me, concentrating on the negatives instead of the positives. Wanna know why--its human nature. Its just some humans are more comfortable with their nature than others. you dont need to change--just improve. This weekend go rock climbing, or run up a freakin tall hill, or jus pump some iron-- but make sure you go there to make yourself cry, or puke, or collapse---but you won`t, cause you`ll finally see just how far a$$holes go to suppress your inner power. F*cK them, because you`re the bomb and their the haters. and before you know it, you`ll start hearing what you thought you never would. You need self esteam.

Answer 7

There is always going to be mean people in this world and you have to learn to love yourself and ignore those ignorant people that are only looking to put you down. If you react to peoples disrespectful comments towards you, you are only bringing a smile to their face. Looks are not everything and i think everyone should recognize this. Try looking in the mirror everyday and find at least 5 things that you like about yourself. GOOD LUCk!

Answer 8

Only hang out with people who you have mutual respect for and who don't knock you in any way....and try to develop thick skin. I don't know your age but you'll eventually need thick skin especially in the business world. Lots and lots of back-stabbing goes on...I don't care if it's a Fortune 500 company or a neighborhood hardware store there's always going to be people trying to get one up on you at any expense...even if it's just for their own amusement. And trust me, when other people see weakness and insecurity they do it more. Exhibit strength and don't put up with any chit from anybody but be respectful about it and people will not mess with you...as much.

Answer 9

In a word: fagedaboudit.

Eventually you realize that it's only what YOU think that matters. Sure you have to dress up for work and everything, but the day will come when you don't care about being popular anymore.

Right now at this moment, I'm wearing a pair of pants that's opened and half unzipped with a belt holding them up because I'm too fat. My shirt hides it. I don't buy new pants because I just went back to my vegetarian diet and I know I'll lose the weight. I wear these because I don't give a shiite.

You need to be confident - and that comes from proficiency and success - so work on that.

Answer 10

I used to be insecure too. To be honest with you, I dropped a hit of LSD when I was 23 and it brought me out of my shell. I'm still an introveret but can have a good time now and then. Unfortunately it usually has to include alcohol for me to get social.

Answer 11

Take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left put your likes about yourself. On the right, put your dislikes. You're going to surprise yourself