i consider myself a good kid.good grades,good plans, no drugs/alchol,ppl have told me that im mature for my age and that i have a good head on my shoulders.i dont wanna be around my mom AT ALL anymore,where as before i always wanted to be near her.but shes ditched me so many times to go party that i think it is a defense mechanism to protect my broken heart, by putting up a wall between us. the other day she told me i had to grow up, that hurt, b/c if she was paying attention shed surely see that im trying and tell me to slow down. she told me that i need to walk the straight line shes put out for me...???...im my own person and i have my own plans, doesnt that mean something??she said when i move out then i can have a say, but until then i just have to deal .,and i think "well im graduating early, that soon enough for you". instead of being sad to leave im gonna be happy to get away. the main reason to why im graduating early b/c is of her. im i wrong?do i just have to deal with it?
2007-12-11 14:19:59 · 6 answers · asked by Sabrina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes, she is very stessed, but im tired of her taking it out on me!!!
i used to pamper her and comfort her, but after what she said, i stop myself before i do it again. she doesnt do that for me anymore. and one these days shes gonna need me, and ill be there for her, but only because shes my mom and no matter what i will always love her.
2007-12-11 14:46:35 · update #1
Parents don't always have all the right answers or advise.(Even though we like to think that we do!)
You obviously know your self well and it does hurt you when she is not recognizing all the good.
Can you make the time to sit down with her and tell her maturely (as you are) that you were hurt by the comment of "You have to grow up". i am sure she will listen.
Is mum stressed out at the moment? Tell her she needs a rest or massage or something for her!
Good Luck!
2007-12-11 14:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Felix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said that you were graduating early, but it still doesn't tell me how old you are. I was in a similar situation, when I was a teen, mine sounds far worse, but I don't know all of yours. But I had to "deal" with the situation until I was old enough to leave home. And I did as soon as I could. Just don't let this tear down your confidence as I did at first. Believe in your self, and try and get along with her until you are old enough, to be on your own. I know it seems hard to do, but you must not have that much longer to go if you are close to graduating. I use to read a lot, and watch movies. Any thing to stay out of her way and not have to argue or be put down.
2007-12-11 15:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by jenx 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. Keep on the path you are on. Do not let the problems with your mother change the kind of person you are. Continue to strive for excellence. Do it for yourself and not for anyone else. Leave as soon as you can, meanwhile try to understand that you mother is human and humans make mistakes and usually hurt the ones closest to them because unconciously they know that they will be able to get away with it.
2007-12-11 14:28:00 · answer #3 · answered by just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely are doing the right thing. She obviously is spending less time with her own child and more time on having fun. She's not much of a parent and I totally agree wiht the things you are doing. Once you leave, I am sure she'll see what she's missed. Gl! <3
2007-12-11 14:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by La La La, Elmo's World Keheh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to an Al-ateen meeting. Once there find a sponsor and work the 12 steps.
Good luck.
2007-12-11 14:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong. You can do whatever you want to. If she's isn't around, she probably doesn't care what you do.
2007-12-11 14:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Computer Geek 2.0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋