Okay-so I know that my husband still watches porn and stuff. But when I looked at his computer today I found pictures with the keywords young teen and even preteen nude in them. I've caught him searching for that kind of porn before but he just got angry and avoided all of my questions about it. He says that he does not have a "thing" for teenagers but I really don't believe him-I guess I just want to know what I should do and whether I should be mad and confront him or just act like I don't know about it......sound advice would be helpful from both genders.
2007-12-11 14:07:49 · 16 answers · asked by clark_jax 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
btw i don't think he was actually looking for preteens it probably just came up when he was looking for young teen girls
2007-12-11 14:15:35 · update #1
also he did say when I caught him that he just wanted to see younger girls but not under 18-don't know if i really believe him
2007-12-11 14:17:01 · update #2
people please stop getting caught up on the preteen thing as i don't think he was looking for that
2007-12-11 14:18:00 · update #3
the youngest age of the pics that were on his comp were 14/15 year olds-but that was just the label on the pic
2007-12-11 14:25:54 · update #4
It depends on his behavior. If he is just a guy looking at porn there really is no problem. I would be concerned if i saw that he only looked at young teens or seemed to have some kind of obsession but to me it sounds like hes just looking for some variety in his porn. Another thing to consider. porn is the biggest thing on the internet only so many videos can be called "man and woman having sex" before you have an excess of videos by that name. So i think the names of videos get more and more creative all the time. Eye catching titles like young girl loses virginity are sure get thousands of hits everyday even if the video itself contains no under age girls or virgins. don't worry too much he is just a guy.
Ps
If you are really worried try looking at the images yourself. Look at the girls and decide for yourself if they are as young as the label says. Allot of the time they are obviously not.
2007-12-11 14:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by Pandora's box 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice is that you shouldn't be mad nor worried as a lot of people are friends with their ex-boyfriend's/girlfriends. Your husband is just checking up to see how his ex-girlfriend is doing. From what he wrote in his myspace message to this girl, there are no signs of cheating or anything else bad so you have nothing to worry about. I'm afraid that's all the advice I can give you but I hope everything works out for the best.
2016-05-23 03:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he gets caught with that on any of his or your computers, he will go to jail. No lie. Also tell him that more and more Internet providers are also getting tough on this. The point being that they won't stop him from freely searching or download, but if any employee happens to come across something, they are required to and will report it.
Not something to be messed around with. Get him some help. If he doesn't it could ruin both of your lives.
I'm just answering from your perspective, obviously the life that is really ruined are those poor children.
2007-12-11 14:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You CANT act like you don't know about it, or else you are as guilty as he is. He apparently does have a thing for young girls. The preteen thing is really scary, and you should be scared too. I pray you don't have young daughters. Tell him you are going to call the police.
2007-12-11 14:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by fnd40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, when you watch porn it plays with your mind. After a while it gets deeper and deeper and deeper!!! You may start out watching women then that's not enough then girls and children then men then boys and so on and so on.
YOu must face that facts of this situation and stop covering for him. You must be a big girl and decided what you are going to do and HOw far you are willing to go
2007-12-11 14:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in the place of the little girl he'll molest someday - if he hasn't already. Imagine having a daughter, what you would think about the woman who could have saved her from a molester and didn't? What would you think about the woman who did report her husband, and saved your daughter? He's probably talking to kids online too. You can't cover for something like that.
Are you going to be an enabler or a heroine?
2007-12-11 14:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
BOTH. Be mad and very worried. Do not take his avoidance for an answer anymore and get him to communicate what the heck is going on. This is serious and a major red flag.
2007-12-11 15:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. This one would bother me and I'm totally open to regular porn. I would probably talk to him about it. I mean it's one thing to want to look at the body of an 18 year old.....another thing entirely when you are talking about pre-teens.
2007-12-11 14:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by KC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband searching for preteen porn can land him in jail for looking at child pornography. That would totally turn me off and freak me out and I would toss him out with the trash.
2007-12-11 14:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If preteen was in the search words then he was looking for that! Why would you think otherwise except to not face the awful truth? Get some profession advice please.
2007-12-11 14:25:36 · answer #10 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋