Men: How Would You Feel Being Beaten By A Woman?

Question

In hand-to-hand combat that is? It is possible so no one should say it isn't. Would you feel embarrassed that you couldn't defeat a lady or accepting because the woman had better fighting/martial arts skills?

By the way, I study kung fu. :)

I've beaten men during sparring before. It's been mixed. Many have been really angry that I could defeat them. Others have gone soft on me when I told them not to.

Answer 1

Embarrassed of course, nobody likes to be defeated. But if I am a not-so skilled fighter and she is Bruce Lee with boobs, what could I complain at?

Answer 2

That would put a man in a hard situation, because even if the woman is a better fighter than me and could kick my ***. I would still not want to fight her or would be very reluctant to just because as a man I would not want to fight or put myself in the situation to possibly hurt a woman even if she could kick my ***. I don't know it's just the gentleman aspect instilled in me. I would feel really awful and sad hurting a woman even if sparring and even if the odds were great the she would beat me. I don't like the possibility which would be there even if slim of hurting a woman, so I would not want to be in that situation. If some how I did get into it and she beat me, I wouldn't care, because it would mean she is a very skilled fighter. And there's a good chance that if she beat, then she can and has beaten many other guys.

Edit: like SP said, it would be hard for me to not hold back when sparring.

Answer 3

I have to admit to being sexist in that I wouldn't get much satisfaction over saying I "beat" a woman. Unless she was like the baddest martial artist in the county, I'd just feel like a jerk who beat up a girl. Maybe, like in the situation you mentioned, ff we were on an even footing in some sort of sanctioned combat, then I wouldn't really care that she won if I thought she was actually better than I was.

Answer 4

Good question. I think context is important here. In the dojo a man should have the discipline and maturity to be beaten by someone of superior ability and take it. If you can beat men of your rank - respect. If they can't handle it, they shouldn't be practising martial arts. Some clubs are good at teaching students to leave their ego at the door, but without this discipline martial arts is reduced to a weird obsession with hierarchies of violence.

Now if we take this into the domestic sphere it is totally different. As one man said: "At least in Vietnam I was allowed to fight back". Men can't win in this situation because if he defends himself and hurts his wife he is a bully, and if he doesn't defend himself against his wife he is a victim. This is a crazy situation that feminism doesn't want us to know about (see the first source below). Predictably men don't want to talk about being beaten up by their wife which only contributes to its low profile e.g. very little funding for men's shelters. Sadly some women think that beating their husband doesn't count as violence, partly because 'if they are a man they can take it', and perhaps also because men deserve a little payback after (supposed) millenia of violent oppression of women.

BTW The rates of domestic violence are equal between men and women. However in unarmed domestic violence women come of worse than men, though if a weapon is involved injury is about equal, or sometimes men come off worse.

Answer 5

Wow, tough question. Let me pose this: If my girlfriend and I are walking down a dark alley, and a guy tries to rob me. A fight ensues, and I get knocked out. At which point, my girlfriend, using her self-defense training beats the piss out of the robber, and gets my wallet back. I would not feel ashamed or embarrassed because I don't assume all men are not stronger than women. I would have been embarrassed by the fact that I should be the one protecting her.

Answer 6

Since you study kung fu you could probably answer this question at least in regard to men you compete with. How do they handle a loss to a woman? Are they embarrassed? Do they hold back and let you win? I would be interested in hearing about your experiences. And by the way, I think it's really cool that you're studying a martial art. I'm seriously considering doing that, too..but can't decide which one to study. What do you think about jujitzu?

Answer 7

it is not guy beating woman, this is man or woman beating guy or woman that i think of is undesirable, except there's a sturdy reason. If the lady has crushed a guy or a member of his family contributors or some thing comparable then i think of it may be warranted. below wide-spread circumstances i think of this is appalling yet once you have, say a 5 365 days old baby and somebody beats up your baby then i think of it relatively is suitable to punch that man or woman interior the face whether you're a guy and the guy is a woman.

Answer 8

Well obviously I'd get my *** kicked by ANYONE who specialized in beating other people up. I chose to develop my skills elsewhere. So no, I wouldn't really be upset. It's simply impossible to be the best at everything and it's in any case always only a race against yourself.

I could however crush you like a bug in a math problems competition :-P.

Answer 9

It depends. If she just kicked me in the groin, then I'd be pretty pissed off. However, if its a martial arts-like thing, then I'd be fine with it. Then again, I don't see myself fighting women. If her skill surpasses yours, than you just have to accept that, work on it, and try again.

I don't really consider martial arts true brawling though. But then, I doubt I'd ever be able to fight without holding back against a woman. Then again, I try not to get into real fights with either sex.

Answer 10

All else being equal and on average? Or, are you talking TV/movie hand-to-hand?

Martial art sparring? It is obvious that you do not understand the word " combat. "