I'm 23 and have 2years left of my degree training as a Primary teacher which i could travel with, but my bf of 2years has put it to me (we have been having issues -both stubborn) that he thinks I want to travel more than anything and doesnt wnat me to have regrets on my deathbed and says he loves me enough to let me go pursue my hearts desire of travel, altho my other hearts desire is to start a family. He wants to settle. This is my first real relationship - what choice should I make?? Have you had to make this choice before??
2007-12-11 14:01:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, I am 23...and I'm telling you that you really can have BOTH. But honestly if you have to choose TRAVEL TRAVEL TRAVEL!!! Last year I took 4 months to go backpacking in Australia during the summer term of school, and like you I had 2 years left of my engineering degree. I had the time of my life!! You CAN still travel while doing school...no matter what anyone says. Go during summer, take a week off here and there if you can...it's soooo worth it. I've gone to England, Costa Rica, New York, and Australia all while doing my degree.
Ok now about the commitment...if he loves you...he will be willing to LET you travel, and stay by our side. While I was in Australia, I met my first love...and he is from England. He lives in England. We thought that the relaionship would be impossible to maintain...but we both couldnt let eachother go. 1 year and 2 months later...we are both still completely committed to eachother and both more in love then ever. He has visited me twice (I'm from Canada) and I've been there once and am returning to spend Christmas and New Years with him and his family.
All I suggest is DO what your heart tells you, and don't miss out in life. Travel...or else you will have regrets...and if your bf truley loves you he will stay by your side...no matter the distance.
Best of luck :)
2007-12-11 14:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The choice you should make it is up to you, sit down and think about go with your feelings and heart. If you feel like you have not done the things you wanted for yourself , so you don't have regrets later in life, do it. Just remember, you will be limited on your travel once you decide to have family for a while, does not mean you could not travel, however you will have family to look after. If you both love each other, you both cannot make ultimatum to each other, marriage is about communication and compromise. At 23, make sure that you are ready for marriage and family, that you will have no regrets if you decide to get married.
2007-12-11 22:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really up to you and what you think is more important. Guys will come and go. You only live once. If you're able to travel after you finish school you should take that opportunity and do it. Work on your career before you consider giving up your life for a guy. Love does make a person do stupid things, and if you stay and settle with your guy you may regret that you were not able to use your degree to the fullest. It's all up to you though and what your priorities are in life.
2007-12-11 22:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by rosezz50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation when I was 23 except it was my fiance who wanted to do the travelling. I didn't want him to go so he didn't....until I broke up with him some months later. I was very happy for him that the one positive thing out of our break up is that he got to do the travelling he wanted to do BUT when I realized what I had lost and wanted to get back together our lives had grown too far apart for us to get back together even though he said he still loved me and I still loved him. He was a world traveller and I was settled.
Funny thing.... I totally have the "travel bug" and wish with everything in me that he could travel with me now and show me all these wonderful places.
Guess you have to decide if you can live without him or not if your lives grow as far apart as ours did.
2007-12-11 22:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by jenny s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your choice is either following your life's dream or possibly, losing your boyfriend. It is harder for him to be left behind than it is for you to go because you will have so many exciting places to visit and new people to see. I would travel, but that's just me. I live authentically... in constant pursuit of my dreams. Since this is your first relationship, it might be a good idea to go just to see what and who else is out there in the big, wide world. Don't put an anchor on yourself; limiting yourself, as you are still very young.
2007-12-11 23:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Travel! He is encouraging you in an understanding, loving way. Plenty of time for settling when you get back. You will still be in your twenties and will have more experience and maturity to boot!
2007-12-11 22:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tarpaulin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being harsh here, but if you have to ask this question, then you probably aren't ready to get married.
Nobody can answer this one for you. We've all had to make this choice in one way or another, but every one is unique and ONLY you can know which you should make.
2007-12-11 22:09:08 · answer #7 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He must be a really great guy that is very secure with ya'lls relationship that's GREAT. But you have to make the decision that's right for you .
2007-12-11 22:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by carmey1173 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing at a time........
Degree (all of it)
Job... to afford the travel
Family... when you're done travelling for a while
2007-12-11 22:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If it is meant to be, it will be!
You cannot cheat fate. Fate will have it's way with you and your life.
Now that you know this, the decision should be easy.
Good luck. Send me a postcard.
2007-12-11 22:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋