I just got out of a physically abusive relationship where my husband said of all the women he has been, I was the ONLY one he was physical to. I highly do not believe him. I think he has done it before. What do you think? Like cheaters, once an abuser, always an abuser????
2007-12-11 13:41:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in an abusive relationship. My guy told me the same thing..I did some research and he was lieng. He even told me that he didnt hit his other girl friends because he didnt love them enough so they couldnt get him mad... HE WAS A BOLD FACE LIAR... It is sick, but when he said that, I almost felt better about it. Abuse is like a drug- once you are in it, its hard to escape...Im sorry you went through this. Never give him another chance. They dont change..for long.
2007-12-11 13:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Enchanted One 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that he could be telling the truth about not ever being physcially abusive to anyone else before because something may have set him off for whatever reason. If he was real abusive for the majority of your relationship chances are that he probably was to the others. Really though, why should it matter to you whether he was or not? Just be glad that you got out of the relationship in one piece because whether or not you were the first one that he ever abused chances are it would have just gotten worse and worse. You will never forget the abuse completely but you have to try and put it behind you so that you can move on with your life and find a good man that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I wish you the best.
2007-12-11 17:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by susie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I weight 200 pounds by potential of leisure organic bodybuilding and my female buddy says I'm candy i could be. If I have been to drop some weight if be the comparable. Abusive adult men are pathetic and not real adult men i'm tough i like enjoying so yet i might never lay a hand on a woman that way i'm very respectful and can be polite like a real guy might desire to handle his woman
2016-10-11 02:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's lying.
i have seen many abused women and their husbands did not become an abuser overnight. if he was in a relationship before you it may not have been to the same level that he did to you but i'm sure something did happen.
it may have been verbal abuse and some outward show of anger. throwing things,punching or kicking a hole in the wall, driving off in a dangerous manner etc.
i applaud your action i just wish all women could extract themselves from that kind of situation and live to see another peaceful day.
2007-12-11 14:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Physically lashing out is a way to deal with stress, pain, frustration etc......some people don't do this no matter how much stress they are under, some people it takes a lot, some people default to this as the first reaction. This is wiring you don't just wake up one day and change it. Through counseling you can learn coping techniques to avoid situations that cause you to go there.
It is highly likely he is lying.
2007-12-11 13:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by George 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you're right and you know it. Why care what an abuser claims. It only matters how he treated you and the fact that he's out of your life, and hopefully unable to con you into thinking it was your fault so you take the loser back. Abusers all think they are special, but they are all alike, they are all twisted liars.
2007-12-11 13:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yea most likely. I mean if someone has abused someone before, what would stop them from doing it again. Why would your husband just all of a sudden abuse you and not his previous girlfriends. The abuse must have stemmed from somewhere.
2007-12-11 13:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by rosezz50 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Abusing your wife is not something that you just start to do today for no reason. I do not believe him either. He is trying to make it seem like it is your fault. This is a common tactic with abusers. They always blame their victim.
2007-12-11 13:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by kim h 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It only gets worse, good for you, you made the right choice. It's always a pattern, if they can't control you, they hit you, you don't want to waste your time with someone like that.
2007-12-11 13:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? If he did let him wallow in denial. He's gone and not your problem.
2007-12-11 15:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋