spanking in a relationship?

Question

my husband ocassionally spanks me, when im out of line because i believe a man should have authority in the household, does anyone else get spanked for that? how? and how long does your last? i just want to know so i can compare it to my husband, if you disagree please don't be rude or disrepsectful, im choosing to live this way.

Answer 1

First off: a note to all those responding. Please read her last sentence more carefully. She's looking for a helpful answer and she states right there that she chooses to live this way. It doesn't make her sick or weird or abused. So give intelligent answers or move on. Thank you.

Dear Spanking,
You are asking a very straightforward question, but it's in such a specialized area that I don't know how helpful others can be. I have never used this in my adult relationships in the way you describe.
If the two of you are using this as a disciplinary style in your home, then I would apply the same rules that are applied to children. It should never be done in anger, cause welts or other long-term marks, only an open-palm hand should be used, no belts, cords or other "whipping items" that can cause bleeding, and be time-limited. For children, it is a rule of thumb to match the number of spanks to the age of the child (6 for a six year-old, 10 for a ten year-old, etc.). For an adult, matching the age would be extreme. It might make more sense for both of you to "make the punishment fit the crime" so to speak, and match the number of spanks to the offense. The more severe you both think the offense is, the greater the number of spanks, but establish a limit. Accidentally crashing the car does not equal 1,000 spanks despite the damage to the car and cost of repair.
The point of spanking is to use temporary pain to make the offender acutely aware of what they have done wrong. It doesn't take a hundred spanks to do so.
One method that can be very effective to teach the point being made is to allow the spankee to decide how many spanks is reasonable to the situation. Some people may then add another 5 or 10 onto that.
Ultimately, the most important tool is open and honest communication between you and your husband on this. It really doesn't matter if lots of people do this or no one. It's your relationship and as long as it makes you both happy to live this way, you are the authors of your lives together.

All that being said, I personally and professionally don't believe in spanking as a disciplinary tool for children. I think there are far more effective, non-painful, longer-lasting methods to correct behavior.

Good luck and happy spanking.

Answer 2

Contrary to what many people here say I think your choice to use domestic discipline is yours, and you and your husband don't have to feel bad about it. While I don't practice DD myself, I think that a spanking is in order when the sub spouse (or either spouse, when you use corporal punishment mutually) has wilfully broken a rule or repeatedly acted in a way considered (self-)destructive. The spanking should not be cruel but hard enough to teach a lesson. So depending on your personal level of sensitivity, you might get a hand-spanking followed by a few licks with a paddle or wooden spoon or hairbrush. All that won't take long, but the anticipation and the afterglow (and the huggings of forgiveness) should make each occasion memorable.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I'm not into DD myself - for me, spanking is essentially a fun/erotic activity - but if it works for you, and it's your free choice, then that's fine.

Probably your best place to compare notes, though, isn't on Y!A where - as you can see - you'll get a lot of ignorant and censorious replies. Check out one of the dedicated DD sites - Taken In Hand, for example - and talk to people there.

Answer 5

You need to find a dom and sub forum to ask this question. Most people around here arent going to understand your lifestyle.

I do not live the lifestyle, but have looked into it. In my opinion, (and I would be the sub) a spanking should fit the crime. Ultimatly it is up to you and him to decide how hard how many times and how long. As the sub, even living the lifestyle, you should have a safety word that tells him when to back off. The sub always has the control.

That being said, go find a domination board where you will find more answers that understand what you are asking rather than calling you names and all the other mean stuff I saw.

Answer 6

Never get spanked. I would not tolerate it.

I don't mean any disrespect .. but .. even children do not like to be spanked .. in fact, some spankings to children is considered child abuse ... so I wondered why an adult would chose to be spanked by their husband ... and on the same note - why would a man want to spank his wife.

No disrespect intended ... it's just a thing which I cannot imagine happening .. or yet - I have never heard of couples who do this.

Answer 7

Spanking between husband and wife should be confined to the bedroom only.

Unless, this is a form of sexual role-play and you both enjoy it, then, its a free world, go for it, but if you ask something like this on Y!A, your goin to get a lot of opinions and morals and all will come into play.

Answer 8

My boyfriend doesn't punish me by spanking me anymore. He knows I like it too much and it isn't really a punishment for me. For punishments now, he makes me stand in the corner, anywhere from 1 to 10 minutes.

Answer 9

Sweetie the man IS have authority of the household but you are NOT a child. CHILDREN get spankings, NOT adults. You are in a very twisted relationship. Yeah my husband makes the final choice but if he tried to spank me I promise he would regret it very bad. I'd hit him back. That's like a cult or something...

Answer 10

U know i really don't know what to say because i do not want to be disrepectful to u because it is ur choice to let ur husband do that to u. I could see if it is something kinky or funny but not because u did something wrong. He may have authority in his household but girl there needs to be a line drawn as how far that goes. U are a woman not a child i will be praying for u