Once you were pregnant, did you ever think to yourself, I am not going to do this AGAIN?

Question

Not to sound selfish or rude, but truely I don't think I will ever go through this again. I am going to cherish this time and remember it forever, but probably never have another baby. Has this though crossed your mind at all? So far, all has been well but I think one baby will be enough for this woman. My fiancee has a 7 yr old boy so it's not like our baby won't have a big brother.

Answer 1

I think of it every damn day!!! What really ticks me off is when people ALREADY talk about "the next one." Then when I say I only want one child it's like I just committed a mortal sin because "the baby needs a sibling." It's real annoying!

Answer 2

Yes- I have a 15 month old daughter and I have thought that way. Especially during the pregnancy and soon after her birth. I had a pretty difficult time while pregnant. I had 9 months of throwing up and terrible mood swings. On top of that I had a DVT in my 26 week. Thankfully both my baby and I survived the clot. People are asking me all the time, "When are you going to have another one?" It is a pretty difficult question to answer. I am now thinking that I might want another baby, but the thought of being pregnant scares me terribly.

Having a child or children is a very personal choice. Only you can make that decision. Whatever choice you make will be the right one.

Answer 3

I suffered through severe morning sickness for better than half of my pregnancy, so yes I have thought that and said it out loud (and warned my husband that if he would like more children, HE should carry them and throw up five times a day for 23 weeks).

All in all, though, I see us having more. Now that I know my reaction to this first pregnancy, I can be more prepared for future ones should they happen. And every pregnancy is different, so maybe I'll get lucky next time and feel great!

I have to admit, after the morning sickness FINALLY subsided, it wasn't bad at all. I love feeling the baby move and watching the acrobatics in my belly. Not so crazy about the swelling, heartburn and aches and pains, but I have already been through worse and I'll take this ANY day over being sick!

Overall, I mostly feel lucky that it looks like I'll indeed live through this - there was a time, after a drastic weight loss and hospitalization, that I thought differently. I just feel really lucky to have been given the opportunity to carry a child, and for HER to be healthy, even if I wasn't. Nature is really miraculous.

But...I totally understand where you are coming from!!

Good luck and congrats on your baby!

Answer 4

I thought this with my daughter! Then 7 years later...pregnant! Obviously it was not intentional, but was totally an accident lol! I am now almost 38 weeks and this one is even worse! My poor hubby wanted to tape me in the car saying "I never wanna be pregnant again!" because I say it regularly now. Then again heading to the doctor 3 times a week due to prodromal labor will do that to any woman. :D

Answer 5

Almost every pregnant woman thinks that at one point or another. It's completely normal, just wait until labor starts!

Once the baby is here, you'll forget all the discomfort and within a year or so, you may be looking forward to doing it all again. Or you may really feel that your family is complete, just don't rush to any decisions at this time, you never know...

Answer 6

I have had 4 kids and I am pregnant with my 5th. Everytime, I get miserable and think, "okay this is the LAST time", but then after the baby's born there is this amazing feeling sitting in the hospital bed and everything's perfect and you forget about anything you thought during pregnancy. And raising the kid is the even better part. Good luck!

Answer 7

My question is why on earth did you say "selfish and rude"? What is selfish about having a brain and making a good decision? What is rude about knowing what you want?

We women need to stop buying into all the garbage our culture teaches us; you MUST get married and you MUST have children...or what? You MIGHT just be happy if you don't?

Your "fiance"? So I take it this is an oops?

What crossed my mind many years ago was IF I ever was going to have a child, I would be married to it's father in a stable committed relationship. But, I took a look at my husband (at the time) knew he was not father material (barely husband material I later discovered) and said NOPE!

Did I then run out and make a second big mistake after I divorced him? NOPE. I was smart. Been single a long while and so happy I am.

My friends did not fare so well however; they had kids and in private said to me "you are so lucky you never had kids". : )

Answer 8

haha I thought that after my first and my second now I am 31 weeks with my 3rd lol everything changes once baby is here and you forget the pain or cant remember how bad it was until you go through it all over again
although this one is going to be my last(ask me if i am going to have another one when bubby is a year old and i might tell you a different story though)

Answer 9

I definitely had my days, yes.
Two hours after I had delivered (I had a difficult labor too) my Mom asked me if I wanted another, and I said yes. My daughter will be 2 next month and I can't wait to get pregnant again. You will probably change your mind. It is sooo worth it, and once you have your little one, you will probably miss being pregnant. I know I did (and do!).

Answer 10

LOL, i think this all the time!! unfortunately my husband wants to have another one a couple of years after this one is born.. pregnancy has been really sucky.. No major problems but i'm just so uncomfortable & feel so fat.. I love my unborn baby but.. don't want to do this again!!