that somehow she is gay or bi. I just a creepy feeling that I get although she has shown me good friendship but... and yes, I have asked her. Obviously she denies it but that unquesy feeling is still there. How can I know....?
2007-12-11 10:37:08 · 25 answers · asked by EVEI 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know but if she makes you feel uncomfortable, it may be for other reasons too. So maybe you should slowly distant yourself from her
2007-12-11 10:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If she is gay or bi, that shouldn't matter to your friendship. Sex shouldn't figure into a friendship anyway. If you had a same sex friend, or one that was hetero, as long as you were just friends and you liked and respected each other just for "who you each are," then gay or bi shouldn't matter.
If it is something else about this person that doesn't "feel right," then now is the time to terminate the relationship. Go with your gut instincts, if it just doesn't feel right, then an offer of friendship is just that: an offer. You have the right to politely decline.
2007-12-11 10:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by purplesometimes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We don't have women's intuition for nothing. Mine has never steered me wrong. Never trust a person who promises to be your friend - no matter how desperate you are - unless you feel just the same way they do and you're on the same page. Like I've had friendships with all kinds of people but if there are weird vibes going off - gosh - you know in your heart if it's a good friendship for you or not. It sounds to me like you have your answer already. If you are are a really nice person - she may sense that she can manipulate and control - that's just not good.
2007-12-11 10:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Guys can just be friends with girls even if they are attracted to them. I have gone through so many friendships with guys, liking them but not telling. It is the same way with someone that is gay. So what if she is attracted to you, what you don't know can't hurt you. If she starts making moves that is when you start to worry. If she isn't gay and you keep on asking her if she is that can be pretty offensive.
2007-12-11 10:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
do you not think you can be friends with her because she is lesbian or bi or do you want to take the relationship further? If you just want to be her friend, then what is the problem? It shouldnt matter if she's strait, im sure she's still a good person
2007-12-11 10:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Max 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no issue with her being gay or bi. However if you have this "funny feeling" also known as distrust. You should just cut ties now before anyone get hurt,
2007-12-11 10:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter is shes gay or bi (trust me once you get to know her, the funny feeling will probably go away) it just matters if she is a good friend or not
2007-12-11 10:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL...that's something youre coping with now, huh? I won't say i've got faith like i'm going insane, I basically sense further and extra indignant reason i've got faith like he might desire to understand why i'm disillusioned. i understand that isn't any longer honest, yet that's the way i've got faith at cases...
2016-10-11 02:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is my entire life my gut instincts have been right 99% of the time. You need to think about your own gut instincts and either trust them or not. If theyre usually right then trust them and act on it according to how you think you should.
2007-12-11 10:47:30 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't know for sure, but until she ever crosses that line, and she may not, I wouldn't worry about it. If she's a good friend to you, then value her, and it may turn out that your feeling is wrong.
2007-12-11 10:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friends usually means no strings attached. If there seems to be some than she's not your friend. If you are uneasy about the relationship than I suggest you trust your instincts.
2007-12-11 10:41:19 · answer #11 · answered by tanzer360 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋