Am I doing something good for myself?

Question

I just had miscarriage number 2. I am heartbroken. It hurts, it hurts that I had 2 miscarriage in 2007. I hate 2007. I hate everything. I think I am having a depression. I have taken unpaid leave from work.

The thing is that I am thinking of quitting from work. Taking a break to heal, concentrate on relaxing and heal physically but more emotionally. We wana try again after 2 months as doc adviced. I wana sleep and dont see anyone, I wana exercise as soon as I can and live more healthy and love my husband. I wana stop cryiing bec i do that every single day.

Do u think it is something good? Take a break from work? Or am I just exaggerating? I am depressed!!!!! :(

Answer 1

First off, let me say, I am so sorry for your loss. Having one miscarriage is horrible enough, and two...I can't even imagine what you must be feeling.

I think it is a good idea to take a break from your work, however, if I were you, I would not quit. What you are feeling right now is not necessarily what you may be feeling a few weeks from now. Ask for two to three weeks off of work. Read inspiring stories, live healthily, and, yes, cry. Cry as hard as you want for three days straight, but when you are done crying--and I know this sounds hard and impossible--stand up, become a stronger woman, and stop crying. You already are SO strong. Remember: whatever happens, happens. If something is meant to happen, it will, and if it doesn't, it's part of a grander and larger plan than any of us know.

Start eating right, you'll be surprised at how even this small change can drastically change your outlook on life. Once again, read lots of inspiring stories. Think of how much you love your husband.

It's going to be hard for a while, but things will get better, just remember that. Just know that there are people out there praying for and hoping for you. :)

I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 2

I would say no do not take a break from work, rather than heal you will likely sink deeper into depression and develop anxiety. Please see a doctor about getting on an SSRI for a little while just to get over the hump.... try zoloft. I am sorry for your losses. Also as ridiculous as it sounds get some excersise... I promise it will help, just buy a cheap ( 5 dollar ) pedometer and throw on some sneakers and take a walk, alone, with a friend, your husband whatever.... try to set goals, like 5,000 steps a day and so on.... it will improve your mental health

Answer 3

If you can afford to take a break from work, then by all means do so. It will give you time to rest and heal.