I'm a black guy who chills with a whole bunch of races (im from California, alot of us are like that) But i feel like sometimes i either have to hang with my white friends, and be the only black guy, or hang with my black friends with no white ppl around.
Does anyone else experience the same and why do you think its like this?
2007-12-11 08:50:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
and no-im not the 'coon' of the group. I'm a jazz musician so im just around alot different people. 19 years old. I dont act all 'white' with my white friends-and i dont act all ghetto with my black friends....im just in the middle.EVEN THOUGH I DONT BELIEVE ONE RACE ACTS ONE WAY.
2007-12-11 09:00:17 · update #1
something is wrong with Shanessa.....she seems very ignorant
anyways......I live in canada and I have friends from all over the world........how could soem people live in a country and not be friends with people of different backgrounds.......I do not know.....they are missing out
you are a true human being.........what you need to do now is start introducing your friends to each other
if they truly love you, they'll get along just fine
2007-12-11 09:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Karel 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i understand and have been in your shoes. i live on the east coast around a lot of people of color, but also work mainly in the midwest, with 985% whites. so long as you are comfortable being with all, don't let it bother you. everyone talks about colorblind this and colorblind that, but when you are the odd man out (or in) it can be awkward. just be yourself and enjoy your friends.
2007-12-11 12:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by dr. shan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's like that to you because you don't fit the stereotype of each culture. You're not the Fresh Prince, and you're not Carlton, you're somewhere in the middle. That's the way I grew up. I'm from an all white community in western NY and all of my childhood, and teen years, I was the only black. By the time I was 17 I couldn't take it anymore. I started to see things differently. How I was treated in that society, some things I took as the norm, and some things I had to tolerate because I was always outnumbered, i.e. ****** jokes on occasion. Being raised in that environment gave me a great view of how whites live, and their perspective on things. That environment made me callous to the word ******, it doesn't effect me, I do find it offensive, but it has no power to provoke me to want to get violent. When I hear that word from a white person, I just know where they are coming from and we probably won't see eye to eye on most things. When I went to college, it was like culture shock, but I did hang with mostly blacks, and it was refreshing, to see how my people live. But, like you, I was still "white enough" to hang with whites too, but the two groups never really intermingled or mixed. I just think it's about ones comfort zone, and tolerance. I may be based on the environment that they were raised in or how they were educated in their homes. My father is/was pretty much a black racist, because of how he was raised, and the things he went through in his life. My black mother was (God rest her soul) tolerant and accepted everyone. My father raised my brother to be racist, and fight the oppressor, my brother is tolerant and accepts everyone. He had is fair share of skermishes growing up but, he's cool with everyone. He ended up marrying a black and native american biracial woman who considers herself black, and she racist. I was raised to be tolerant and accept people for who they are. I married an asian and white biracial woman, and she considers herself a person and loves everyone. And I'm the one who came out of college in 91 and to this day, I'm struggling not to be racist. Even though I'm married to a non black. I was raised to be just the opposite, but everyone goes through their own life experiences and behaviors develop from that. I don't know if that answered your question, but it felt good to get that out.
Peace, and Love,
2007-12-11 09:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Nah, Where i live is pretty much multi-cultural.
Shanessa, Your probably not even black...
Are you trying to make a point ( comments, hair..)???
2007-12-11 09:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jpegg 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
just enjoy the company of all your friends and don't worry about it!
you don't have to conform to certain people...just certain personalitys that appeal to you...enjoy!!
2007-12-11 12:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by tai's backup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋