2007-12-11 08:34:22 · 21 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
To love means to have deep positive feelings. It means to care about that person and their happiness and well-being. It means being moderately disappointed if that feeling is unrequited.
To be in love means to completely give yourself to another person. To not only care about them and cherish them, but to shutter at the thought of life without them. It means to tolerate things you'd never thought you'd tolerate, because the good out weighs the bad. It means to be emotionally and possibly even physically ill when you think it could be over.
It also means being devastated (not moderately disappointed) when the feeling isn't mutual.
You'll KNOW when your in love.
2007-12-11 11:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-12-11 19:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be in love you see with eyes that don't see faults. You see only good in the other person. You thrill at the sight of them. Everyday feels like Valentine's Day.
To love is work. You choose to love the unlovely, the undeserving. Love is service. Love is sacrifice. Love means giving all you've got and then some, without reward. Love means waiting. Love means sharing and not having your way all the time.
sounds negative? Not really, if you practice love like that, you will see the blessings of love.
2007-12-12 09:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by JerZey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is doing small things with great love.
Do not think that love, in order to be genuine, has to be extraordinary. What we need is to love without getting tired.
Intense love does not measure, it just gives.
The success of love is in the loving - it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.
2007-12-11 17:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your competence and comprehension. It is certainly better than being a heartless psycho. According Maslow it may depend on your struggle in life and what it is. If you are suffocating for lack of oxygen, you are not thinking about your thirst for water. If you are feeling life is short and you are feeling dutiful, sharing concerns of an intimate friend as your own, then you are not experiencing universal love which is moral in character but rather moral in the interpersonal experience. Which propositions for the relationship you wish to introduce to the other is contingent on your knowledge of your self and your knowledge of the other.
2007-12-11 20:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One can love a child, or even a pet. But one only can be "in love" with another person, probably of similar age (but not necessarily). I think being "in love" is a kind of psychological fantasy that can lead to love, or not. But it's no less wonderful for that - as many times as it comes!
2007-12-12 02:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are in Love with someone, or you think you are, is differrent than, Love, Love is an emotion that has grown through the Years and it has deepened, so Love, and being in Love are two different things.
2007-12-11 22:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that statement can get confused..for sure. To be in love is knowing that person in in love with you. They want you to be together forever. To love is to say Rena i love you as a person but I am not in love with you. You have to know someone a long time to say I am IN LOVE with you. I love my contacts here but I am not in love with any of them..To feel deep down love comes within yourself and pours outward to the other person and you feel it.. The other person will feel it also..When you cant get enough of being together and dream about them all the time. That is what in love is.
2007-12-11 17:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Rena, there are many kinds of love,to love means loving my family,a close knit bond. to be in love is to love a lovely woman, with deep friendship and desire towards her.and vice versa.a whole completely different level. take care Rena.
2007-12-11 21:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is an expression to differentiate, certainly not to quantify. I love my children more than anyone. I would not say I am in love with them. I have never felt any love stronger than this love.
If I am in a relationship with a man who I love, I might say I am in love with him to differentiate between a love as just friends and a more intimate love.
2007-12-11 16:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Trina™ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋