My parents forced me into college with guilt trip, but I have no ambitions for getting the grades. I want to be an innovator. The Crystallized Intelligence is strong for learning great lengths in short periods (and boy is it expensive!), but Fluid Intelligence is weakened if over-stressed, therefore you end up getting the grade, but realistically you only remember the parts you enjoyed and understood most...and one cannot enjoy or understand every single detail of every single subject...100% with perfection and use it at 100% efficiency in their real lives towards their job. The degree is nothing but a bonus in applying for the highest paying jobs and social status. I just don't see it...I don't enjoy my own life now, how will a degree alow me to enjoy my life later? I hate myself and I hate most people, so what's the degree any good for? I should solve my own problems first before I take on more stress. I've felt terrible for the past 10 years, what says a degree changes that?
2007-12-11 08:14:44 · 20 answers · asked by Neveahitallic 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's worth it...even if you do nothing with it, you will be happy you started and completed something on your own without anyones help....good luck
2007-12-11 08:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College really is not for everybody and the reality for a lot of people when they graduate is an office job where they have to compete with high school graduates with more practical work experience. It used to really mean something when someone went to college and got a degree. That was because most people didn't go to college. Now, college graduates are pretty much a dime-a-dozen and a degree isn't worth what it once was. There are a lot of careers out there that are literally begging for people but a lot of parents don't want their children to pursue them because those are considered "low class" jobs. I've never understood the mentality that considers someone who sits at a desk and fills out paperwork is somehow a better person than one who builds cabinets or works on cars.
2007-12-11 08:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by RoVale 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I went to a university the first couple years of my schooling and I was miserable. But it's important to me to finish what I start so now I'm just taking a class or two at a community college as it fits into my schedule. It'll take about 6 years for me to get my bachelors but that's fine. I'm way less stressed and a lot happier.
Basically - it's simple. You have to do what makes you happy. It's not your parents' life - it's YOURS. If you can find something that makes you happy and lets you earn a living and doesn't require a degree, go for it. You parents should understand and if they don't, oh well. It's not worth it to go your whole life just making other people happy.
Good luck
2007-12-11 08:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is true that college is not for everyone. There are many cases of people achieving success without a college degree.
You can always decide to attend college later on in your life. If you do decide to drop out of college now, what will you do to occupy your time? A job? Some travel? Something else?
I'm glad to read that you recognize that you have some personal problems that need attention. Give this your priority. Don't hesitate to seek outside help if necessary. Don't just tune out and allow your hostilities to fester.
Good luck with whatever you decide upon.
2007-12-11 08:30:15 · answer #4 · answered by Horatio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College is a learning experience. There are many different types of learning today that stray away from the traditional learning. There are online courses, you can go to school part time, you can go to a trade school. Find something you enjoy in school and learn everything you can about it. Regardless if you like people or not, you have to be open to new ideas and new adventures or else you will end up miserable. So, open your mind and welcome new things, take some risks and you'll realize that life actually is fun and you can enjoy yourself after all.
2007-12-11 08:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Erica G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A degree is worth it. It's not just a social status thing, that's what employers are looking for in high-paying jobs and therefor necessary to even think about getting into the higher-end positions. I think you're failing because you feel miserable about yourself. Seek counseling and continue on your path to the degree. Your parents are hoping if you do well in school, you'll be able to get a job you like (which is entirely reasonable) and that maybe that will make you happy. The only thing standing in your way is you. Get the counseling to feel better about yourself, and then you'll feel better about everything else.
2007-12-11 08:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least apply to some colleges and see what opportunities are available.
I didn't want to go to college either, but once I got into college and started going to classes I loved it, because of all the opportunites there are. For example, doing labs and going on field trips that actually mean something.
There are so many things to do at college. It might be better for you, that way you can get out of your parents house and live on your own.
2007-12-11 08:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not addressing the main problem stated in your letter!!!The fact that you haven't felt good for a long time and until you do something for your depression going or not going to college is a mute point!!! You won't be happy until you do something about that!!! So whether you go to college and become the next CEO of Microsoft or work at Target or Walmart you won't be happy until you deal with the underlining cause of you're unhappiness. You have to deal with reality and not what you perceive to be reality, unless you're psychotic in which case you would need hospitalization. It's up to you, You're no longer a child who has to depend on his parents to take him for health care, it's your responsibility. You have to decide how much you want out of life and what you're willing to do to get it.
2007-12-11 08:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
college is worth it!! if you want to live some where not on the streets you will need a job that pays good! most people get those because they have a college degree! no many people drop out of college and some think about it often
2007-12-11 08:18:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wealthiest people I know - and also the happiest - didn't even finish high school. They didn't fit into the stereotype that do well in the education system. If you aren't happy or succeeding in the system - get out of it. Don't be a bludger though. Go and do what you enjoy doing. Go and innovate....You'll be happier doing what you are meant to do, not what you are forced to do.
2007-12-11 08:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by ozinnz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is right for you. Don't worry so much about what your parents think. They should just accept you for you and let you make your own decisions in life. Don't get a degree in something just because they want you to. You only live once, make the best of it!
2007-12-11 08:19:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋