suicide......?

Question

ok, just in, I had someone close call me and tell that they were having toughts of this nature, and was really scared to act upon them.

he is now taking medication, and I think that thats what causing this thoughts, now the thing is she told me that her hubby of 35 yrs is planing to leave her. She is devastated because she is ill, and to make matters worse she weight 400 lbs (no joke), my q? is, do you think that the meds are acting up on her? or its the whole " Im going to leave" from her hubby that has her like this?

Its sad how much people can change.......she even told him not to leave, she begged. She used her illness to try to hold him back, fair? I dont know, I just pray that she gets thru this ok.

Answer 1

Please call NOW!

1-800-SUICIDE 1-800-784-2433

You do not have the skill to help someone who is this depressed. Don't kid yourself.

YOU make the call and ask for help if she won't. She needs to talk to someone who has experience. Now.

Answer 2

This is tough, because the trigger is a matter of the heart. Not to mention she is probably thinking she isn't going to find anyone else. No it wasn't fair to use her condition, because she doesn't know if that's why he wants to leave. Sometimes you have to let go to move on. She just needs to let him go, and maybe he'll come back. If he doesn't then she is better off without him. Encourage her, and let her know she's going to be ok, that this isn't the end of the world. Try talking her of the ledge, and dig deeper to maybe find the root of these thoughts. Eventhough she's a large woman she still has a life beyond this husband of hers. He isn't right for leavingher when she's down, but he has the right to be happy too. Just be there for her when she needs you, and lend that listening ear. Try not to think about how much you can do, and just be a friend. You never know how powerful kind words can be until you use them. Good luck with your friend.

Answer 3

heres what I think, find a companion and go to her dont leave her alone for a moment be with her for a while, talk to her and convince her that suicide is not an answer first that suicide is immoral in the standards of many religions, and that would mean disadvantages if she pushes through with it. then convince her that suicide isnt a practical otion if she is trying to get her husband to stay, because naturally if she does it then she will just be giving her husband another reason to leave or move on. then just it it through to her that there are many ways to solve problems in life and there are still many more who are in a worst situation than she is, there are many more people would would beg just to be where she is I live in a third world country and there are many like her here but they are worst they are even eating scraps from the dump. so tell her that if she wants to get over her problems there are many ways and if she isnt interested there are many reasons, theres no such thing as a problem that cant be solved, just try to reason to her first, but if she wont listen then call the authorities, call someone whos qualified but if you can do it in the most simple way you deem possible then what are you waiting for.

Answer 4

Keep praying and letting her know she is loved. Let her know to keep trusting God and, maybe it think about getting on some different meds. If she wasn't like this before then I would have to think it is the meds she is on now. She also needs to go seek some counseling. Her husband is a turd for leaving her at a time like this but, there is nothing you can do at this point about that...

Answer 5

Sonador, Sounds like she is overwhelmed and the combonation of the two plus her weight may be a factor ! She needs professional help ! For her mind and body ! But first call on Jesus !

Answer 6

Sounds awful. Not much you can do though except be supportive and act as a sounding board for everything directed at you. Don't try to DO anything really. Just be yourself and guide.

She is lucky to have you as a friend.

Answer 7

Anyone who weighs 400lbs, considers suicide, and is depressed has problems. I'm not saying this judgmentally, I've been there. Her husband may leave her. That won't end her life. As long as she depends on someone else to make her happy she will have problems. It is most important that she know herself, find her inner peace, and know that she is loved (even if her husband isn't the one doing it). Also, it is important for you to know that whatever she does to herself is not your responsibility.

Answer 8

How long has she been on the meds?? They say in the beginning you may have thoughts of suicide or of hurting yourself. But after you have been on them awhile, those thoughts should diminish. I hope and pray for your friend.

Answer 9

Threatning suicide is very serious. You have no way of knowing if the person is serious or not so your best bet is to take them seriously. She needs some help. More help than you or any or us could offer.

Answer 10

Speak to her, be there for her - even ask one of the people here to be a good listener and to provide a shoulder if needs be.

I admire your courage and concern in posting this question: it was a brave thing to do.

Anything I can do ................