Is it ok to have a baby shower for your second child if it is the same sex as the first? I've been having this debate with some co-workers, and my mom has passed so I cant ask her =(
2007-12-11 07:33:25 · 22 answers · asked by Tabatha M 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i think its completely acceptable. maybe instead of gifts just let everyone know you would just like to celebrate!
2007-12-11 07:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Miss R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to be very opinionated on this subject so I'm just going for plain, traditional etiquette here...
The general rule of thumb is that you don't give second showers, period. The purpose of any shower is to shower the the mom-to-be (wife-to-be) with the equipment and tools she needs to be a mother (a wife etc). Once you have a crib you don't need another one.
If you want to be a bit more lax with traditional etiquette, the easiest exceptions to the rule are children who are born very far apart, meaning the equipment mom has is either outdated or given away by the time the second child arrives. Next, if there are multiples, as one crib surely isn't going to work for triplets. Lastly, is if the children are different sexes.
Edited to add: Another option is a meet the baby party after your child is born. Almost anyone who comes will probably bring a gift, you're not "violating" etiquette rules and everyone gets to meet and celebrate the new baby.
2007-12-11 07:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by NewMomma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is never improper to have a baby shower. A shower is so much more than gifts. It is an opportunity to gather family and friends together to celebrate the beginning of a new life. The birth of a baby is a joyous occasion, and it is always acceptable to celebrate it. If other family members or friends are concerned about it being improper to have a baby shower for a second (or more) child, there are ways to take the focus off the gifts. If the second child is a different sex than the first, it would be fun to host a "It's a Girl" or "It's a Boy" party, where guests bring gender specific gifts. Or, if the mom-to-be truly does not need anything for the new baby, forego gifts altogether and just gather to celebrate. Another option is to host a casserole shower or a pampering mom shower.
2007-12-11 07:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is acceptable! I actually just researched baby shower etiquette because I had some questions also. Basically the answer to your question, was that every child is a gift and just because it is the same gender doesn't mean that he/she shouldn't be celebrated. Plus times change, things get overly used and each child deserves some nice things of their own in my opinion...my husband would agree..he is one of 4 boys haha! Best wishes!
2007-12-11 07:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by danna 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just went through this myself. How far apart are the girls. I did have a second shower 5 years in between. However i did not invite everyone that i invited before, actualy it was an open invitation, by word of mouth. That way people that came to my first were not obligated to come to my second and get me another gift. I was suprised how many people returned for my second shower and as far as I know no one complained. So go for it.
2007-12-11 07:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by koda 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think the arrival of a new baby is always worth celebrating! However, you should not push planning a shower on anyone, that would be poor etiquette.
2007-12-11 07:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by xxxxxxxx 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
basically ask a determine to throw one for you or basically muse at some point how advantageous it would be to have a bathtub for this infant because of the fact there are such lots of issues you nonetheless choose. in case your mothers and fathers are something like mine, they're probable loss of life to help out in any way accessible and can be of their glory in case you requested them to help set up a bathtub. i think of people ought to recover from the concept that soliciting for or having a 2d infant bathe is grasping or undesirable etiquette. that's in comparison to having a 2d (or third...etc) infant is any much less particular than having your first. some anybody remains very previous formed.
2016-10-11 01:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my mom told me I can't have another babyshower same sex or not. The only time it's ok is when the kids are about 3 to 4 years a part. But I say if you got rid of everything or not just have another one
2007-12-11 07:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy Pooler 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
its like asking, are you allowed to celebrate your pregnancy?
of course you can, they say your not suppose to have a 2nd or 3rd shower but who are these people, I wonder sometimes.
probably people with only one kids, lol.....
throwing a baby shower doesn't mean your asking for gifts, which people assume, its just another cause for celebration
So enjoy your baby shower and Congratulations
and congratulations
2007-12-12 08:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Loida O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about a diaper shower. Instead of gifts, if the guests wish to bring a gift they bring diapers. You always need diapers. Hope this helps!
2007-12-11 07:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by rudreamin 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I did. My sons were almost 6 yrs apart, so obviously some things had worn out from the first and needed replacing. But it was mostly an excuse for us to have a party!!!
2007-12-11 07:37:27 · answer #11 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋