my husband and I just got married a few months ago. We bought a new house and recently both got part time jobs so we would feel more financially secure plus be able to save more money when we are ready for a family. Since my husband and I don't see much of each other, do you think this could lead to divorce? I'm afraid he'll meet someone at his job(s) and forget about me and eventually stop loving me. Is this a valid concern or am I letting the media garbage get to me?
2007-12-11 07:27:12 · 7 answers · asked by ERS 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
We both work full time jobs and have since college.
We only recently got part time jobs on top of our full time.
2007-12-11 07:36:19 · update #1
Maybe you should each cut back on your part-time jobs. If you are working 5 nights a week on top of your regular M-F 9-5 jobs, and maybe weekends - that's too much! Maybe work your part-time jobs three nights a week and Saturday morning or evening - and that's it! Designate the two nights you don't work and Sunday as nights you will definately you'll eat dinner together and maybe Sundays as days you'll plan an activity to be together - the movies, go to the beach or skiing (depending on climate), even play a board game, bake or cook together, plan the holiday together, etc.
What good is saving for the future if you don't get to see each other?
2007-12-11 07:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by IAskUAnswer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I know a couple that have been married over 40 years and they both worked full-time and part-time jobs in order to get by. Just don't forget why you got married and when you can spend some time with each other it is more than likely all that much sweeter.
Only thing I want to know is why in the world is your query in the Christmas section instead of Marriage?
2007-12-11 07:33:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live life being afraid of things like that... yours fears will lead to divorce before the actions actually do happen, because you will find yourself in resentment and not trusting him. You need to enjoy your time that you do have with him.. try to get the same days off.. and be happy you guys have bought a home. My question is, how do you have no time together and afford a home if you are both only working part-time jobs? Did you mean to say full-time? Most married couples work full time.. and if a cheating affair is going to happen.. it would have happened anyways. You need to remember why you got married and trust your hubby. You also need to remember to keep yourself up.. don't get too comfortable if you know what I mean, and lay around looking like a hag. Always keep yourself up for your man. Best Wishes!
2007-12-11 07:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by Cupid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems curious as to why you are worried that your husbanc will find someone new and you say you have been married only a few months. If you are concerned that these part time jobs will affect the outcome of your marriage maybe you should rethink your initial plan. Sounds wonderful that you two are planning for a future. Maybe you should focus on making the most of the time you get together and making it special.
2007-12-11 07:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by efaye22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're letting the media garbage get to you.
Make the time you DO get to spend together meaningful - as in establish open lines of communication.
Which you should have done BEFORE you married.
Anyway, express your concerns about not spending time together with your husband. And together openly discuss ways you can reassure each other that you love each other - and also weigh whether the part time jobs are really helping your relationship.
But you have to do this with HIM - not with us.
And quit reading so many grocery-store tabloids.
2007-12-11 07:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel distance between you, address it now. The jobs and finances are merely logistical matters or triggers; if you feel you both need to spend more quality time or pursue more emotional intimacy, just start talking to each other about it. Every feeling is valid, and couples should discuss what's in their heart before, during, and after a "problem" arises.
2007-12-11 07:34:39 · answer #6 · answered by Buttercup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why such a hurry to buy a house? look at yourselves now. What will happen when you have kids - one ro both of you will still have to work 2 jobs just to make ends meet and you'll still never have any time for each other
2007-12-11 07:32:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋