and enjoy acting like they have extreme problems/issues themselves.
2007-12-11 04:05:25 · 12 answers · asked by pookie 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
We all have problems and issues, now people may be more attracted to someone with "obvious problems/issues" because they may feel that a person with "obvious problems/issues" will not judge them as much as someone who appears to be "perfect". And you are judging right now by thinking someone enjoys acting like they have extreme problems/issues.
2007-12-11 04:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Übermensch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They ARE? I must be a freak, because I RUN as fast as I can from people with obvious issues..... I do not have the time or energy to spend on trying to work out other peoples problems.
Answering questions here is about as close to dealing with other peoples issues as I care to get. This way, I can walk away any time I want and nobody can chase me down or hang on to me.
2007-12-11 12:16:16 · answer #2 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in some way, the Relate to the person with the problem/issue, and feel compassion and empathy. Perhaps they feel, they can DO something about it, and perhaps even feel better about themselves when they can help or be that person's friend. Perhaps because they are themselves not perfect, and hence feel drawn to similar people with certain flaws or issues. Perhaps, they know what it feels like to be left out and feel alone, and they are instinctively drawn to such people.
2007-12-11 13:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that we were born in this world with a purpose and it is to help those in need. So when we see someone who needs help, our sub-conscious makes us feel compassionate and we come forward to help that person.
In the second part of the question, I may differ with you. We do not put up an act but we try to be frank and open up to someone who is ready to open up to us. We enjoy such an encounter becoz obviously sharing lightens the burden on both sides and bring happiness. Net result is that we both benefit.
2007-12-11 12:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Feminine_Side 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason a pack of lions will always go after the gazelle at the back who appears to be limping.
Predators like nothing better than easy prey.
2007-12-11 12:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lucid Interrogator 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They feel at home with people as problematic as they are. For example, I have a friend who only dates people with mental health issues (he claims that this is coincidental), and although he isn't mentally ill himself, he is really immature, has low self-confidence, and wants to feel better about himself by having a girlfriend that's worse than he is. All of his relationships have ended in misery, and I currently have a better friendship with one of his ex-girlfriends than with him. In short, people like these are needy, highly prone to depression, and they will never change until they have a mid-life crisis after a mountain of failed relationships.
2007-12-11 12:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people do seem to love being in a constant state of crisis, don't they?
It gives them meaning, it gets them sympathy.
Some people are compelled to try to fix others.
Just a few reasons off the top of my head.
2007-12-11 14:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps because misery loves company.
2007-12-11 12:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Does being a loner count? Because if it does, no one seems to bother about being my friend.
2007-12-11 12:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are addicted to playing the role of victim
2007-12-11 12:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋