Problem with Wife of Husband's Friend?

Question

I have been with my now husband for a total of 5 years. He has two really close friends and one is married (w/ 3 kids). I met his friend and his wife when me and my husband first started dating and she seemed fine. But over the last few years, I just feel like she does not like me. She does have a different personality, but I feel like whenever I'm in her company (which isn't often), she doesn't seem real happy and makes brief conversation. Yet, she seems to be more friendly with another friend's GF who lives nearby. However, she would talk about her behind her back (I remember her saying she has nothing in common with her). I never did anything to this girl for her not to like me. But I get the impression because I'm not one to shout out my sexual history in a room full of people, I'm viewed as too nice. It isn't all bad, sometimes I'm around her and its fine. But overall, I don't know how to get close to her and I'd like to as its my husband's friend's wife. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

I wish I could say that everyone IS created equal, which is true, but not everyone CREATS themselves to be equals, if you get my drift. So in other words, this ladies twisted, no offense, she just doesn't know how to handle her interpersonal relationships, so you'll have to learn to be a better relator with her, or wash your hands of it. Show some compassion, its not easy, but it means getting a little into her head, she likes talking about sexual history? Get her talking and joking about it, it might not make you comfrontable, but it'll make her comfrontable, you don't have to join her, but its about being tackful, something one can't teach, but in time with the right motivation, you'll learn, personally, I wouldn't.....

Answer 2

Try setting up a lunch or event with just the two of you. Maybe getting time with her one on one will allow both of you a chance to get to know each other and form a friendship based on the two of you. Even if it does not help, it might enlighten to why there is an issue. If you do not become bff's that is ok too, at least you will know you tried and your husband will appreciate the effort as well. But I would definitely recommend getting time alone with her.

Answer 3

It's simple. If she wants to spend the energy to not like you for no good reason who cares. It sounds like she doesn't cause problems but she isn't helpful. In a sense she is nothing to you. You can have a person around that you don't have to worry about liking you because she probably won't and thats o.k. She sounds like a tool anyway so I say you don't need her for anything.