This man, 40 yrs old, lives with mom in a 2 bedroom apt., has his own room, works every day & says he chooses to live at home with Mom because she's "sickly" & she "forgets" things. He also said he didnt see the point in paying all that rent for his own place when all he does is work, come home & go to sleep. He smokes weed, drinks (sometimes, I guess), but I dont know if the smoking/drinking is habitual, I know once he came by to see me he was high off weed & once he came by with a bottle of Bailey's, other times he didnt smoke or drink around me but I dont know how much he does this stuff when he isnt around me & is with his friends, who also smoke & drink. He's had failed relationships, says he "gives his all" & gets hurt & that he stays away from getting involved with chicks because he doesnt want to wind up feeling the feelings that come with being involved in a relationship. He also seems to be kinda boring, but a very nice person. If anything is wrong, what's wrong with HIM??
2007-12-11 03:10:00 · 9 answers · asked by Lala 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
He's a big loser, run like h@ll....
2007-12-14 16:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy is a loser. There is nothing wrong with a 40-year old man still living with his mother if he is footing the bill. That would be "he is letting his mother stay with him". But if he lives with his mother to avoid paying bills, at his age, he is a leech. It is obvious that he's taking advantage of his mother and not paying his way because he spends his money on weed and booze!
It's not true that he gives his all in a relationship because if he did then he wouldn't be taking advantage of a little old woman to whom he owes his very life.
There's a lot of things wrong with him. First, he doesn't have his priorities straight. He should be living like an adult, paying his way, keeping sober, and taking more responsibility. It isn't enough that he is frying his brains on weed, he has to drown it in alcohol too!
Second, he goes through life riding the waves not paddling to get somewhere. A guy like this is not going to be any help at all. Problems are inevitable whether you are single or in a relationship. This guy is not a problem solver -- he is a problem passer.
Third, he is mulching off his mother! For goodness sake, at his age, he should be the one providing for his mother not the other way around.
Fourth, he is very bad with money. He won't pay for the roof over his head but pays for weed and booze.
Fifth, he wants the easy life. Life is never easy. For every privilege there is a corresponding responsibility. He doesn't get involved because he doesn't want the hassel of a relationship.
Sixth, he is not really nice. That is his modus operandi. He'll make people think that he is nice so they'll let his shortcomings slide.
This guy is a loser .... run as far away from him as you can.
2007-12-11 03:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by reg 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well....My wife and I are both 28 and our boys are (1&3). My mother lives with us and helped buy the house initially as it has a second master on the first floor (she is 69...I was the boo boo). She is great, my wife and she get along really well and she helps with the boys. My wife and I both work outside the home and it saves money to have mom around. Housework is done by a house keeper 3x a week and cooking is done usually done by me as we keep a vegetarian household (which has helped my moms diabetes 10 fold). My mother could never live with old people, as she doesn't like old people and we keep her young! As for if my wife parents needed to live with us we would make room! Elders do get older and sometimes need companianship, which our society is soon to dismiss! We are a throw away society whether it is belongings or people! I said if he is kewl with the living conditions and it doesn't hinder his life what the hell! For the holidays we have a full house.....thankfully we have 6bdrms and lots of love to go around! Perhaps if you gave him the benefit of the doubt you could meet a great guy....the worst thing is you could make a friend!
2007-12-11 13:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by surfnyogadude 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IS he a virgin 2? He is 40 and still at home thats the problem. He could still take care of his mother and not live at home. He's just using his mother as an excuse to stay at home!!!!!
2016-05-23 01:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the guy lacks security and stability and obviously he has concerns for his mother. I think he should maybe get a life outside his mother - after all none of us live forever.
2007-12-11 03:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by dabbit 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he may work a lot but hes still a loser. He just doesnt want to keep up his own place and wants his mommy to cook, clean, and do his laundry.
2007-12-11 03:57:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
For your record i would say, mind your business.
Why you have to care about some one who looks like lost !!!!
It's not your business, am i wrong !!!!!!
2007-12-11 03:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mama's boy.
2007-12-11 03:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN!
2007-12-11 03:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋