Severe self-hate due to appearance?

Question

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This face makes me want to take a sledge-hammer and destroy it. I constantly think of every single solitary way I can get rid of my nose or my ugly chin, lips, cheeks, boring eyes, what have you. I hate myself for having no prospects. I have to wait until some ugly sod finally settles for me. My brain, personality, interests get me no where with men. I am just a 1 or a 4 and ever since I was 14 I have thought about jumping off of something because God obviously hates me enough to make me this ugly. I'm not lovable, I love people, but no one ever loves me back. I've worked so hard to burn so much weight, but I'm left with a plain and ugly face that people want to avoid. I am in therapy and it doesn't work. Has such an ugly girl found love from someone who wasn't uglier than her?

I know I'm plain. Maybe just good-looking men think I'm ugly. But I know I have nothing going for me in this department at my college-age.

I've had such a deep self-hate for almost ten years. I doubt it'll go away since my face will never get better.

Answer 1

What the heck are you talking about?! I think you're pretty!!!

Answer 2

God's sake, woman! You may not be a stunning beauty, but you're not bad at all! I know MUCH uglier woman than you. I think you'll find that people are unattracted to your low self-esteem, not your appearance. If you just have the courage to say 'I don't ******* care how I look; I'm going to make the most of what I have' then the men will come flocking.

It's so frustrating when there are pretty people who do themselves down for not being more pretty... what is the point?!

Answer 3

You are unique and if you looked like the next girl you wouldn't be you. First of all, if a man does not like you for your brain, personality or interests he is superficial and you do not need someone like that.

What you need are positive self affirmations. These are things you tell yourself that are true, but positive. You shoudl say to yourself everyday "I am beautiful"

Therapy might not be working because you are fighting it. This negative self-talk and thinking that you are not lovable is not what you need.

Give yourself a chance, you should come up with ten things you like about yourself and smile while you do it! When you love yourself, others will see that and love you. Just try, go to this website.

Answer 4

Listen to me, I think you are gorgeous, all you need to realise is what you are seeing when you look at yourself is everything you hate about youself. You need to start looking at all the beautiful parts instead, your skin looks soft, tanned, your hair is long and dark (and I love brunettes) your eyes are dark and deep ( I have always said blue or light eyes have a coldness that dark eyes don't have) and the most important thing about that picture is you're smiling and do you realise how attractive that makes you. I know there are many people out there who are beautiful and they will never know it, I feel you think you are having a bad day 2day and there is far from anything for you to worry about.

Answer 5

in 10 years, you'll laugh at what you just wrote.

Stick with the therapy, and don't worry about love... it will find you when it's good and ready.


Edit: We all have flaws and we ALL judge ourselves harsher than the world judges us. With maturity you will start to realize this on your own (me telling you doesn't make you realize it.. it doesn't work that way.. it has to be "earned" in a sense). And when that comes you will find peace with your looks... and even like the way you look.

Answer 6

You are not ugly. You are far from ugly.