Is there a way I could help her achieve one (without obvious stuff?)
2007-12-11 02:04:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
there are some women that never have one in their lifes and others that have one 7 times during sex with someone or themselves...find out what really turns her on...be patient
2007-12-11 02:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"obvious stuff' whats that mean? lol.
Try a vibrator, those are fun for everybody. haha. Or take more time in the bed/foreplay. Sometimes it takes a woman an hour or more to achieve an orgasm when it can take 20-30 min. for a guy. Patients Patients Patients.
You could also try a "sex shop" online or in your area. Lots of fun 'toys' and ideas.
good luck
2007-12-11 10:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if there has ever been a trauma that could affect her sexual organs. Either abuse or injury.
If all is okay on that front, give her a LOT of foreplay. The more she wants you the better the actual intercourse will be. Be patient.
Use direct stimulation on her clitoris. Use a lubricant , do not be rough unless SHE wants it harder, and just enjoy bringing pleasure to her.
Oral is another option.
If she is not open to trying any of these options, then there is really not anything you can do for her. She has to be secure with touching her own body for any of these to work.
2007-12-11 10:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by Klitten in the Shower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't have an orgasm until 3 years after I lost my virginity. Tell her to try to clear her mind of everything she's trying to think about - just relax. Also, take a trip to the local adult sex shop - here you can find some vibrators that will help when she is without you.
it's not abnormal for her not to be able to orgasm.
2007-12-11 10:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to learn to clear her mind and just go with what's happening in the moment.She can' be thinking about work or feeling self-conscience about what you're thinking or doing or it won't work.Women need touching and kissing and foreplay to get them aroused more than men do so spend some time making her feel special and it will happen.And try not talking or asking things such as "Does this feel good?" or " You like that?".It throws me off every time a guy starts talking when we're getting busy.
2007-12-11 10:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Janell T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, there is a certain percenatge of women who will not/never reach orgasm.
That doesnt mean she cannot enjoy a fruitful sex life.
Foreplay! (next best thing to orgasm)
2007-12-11 10:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Key is that women are 60% mental and 40% physical. It takes women much longer for them to warm up. Set a mood, for play is very important find the right spots to touch, stroke, lick, kiss, and etc. Just dont go for the bang if you know what I mean. It takes time, and dont drink anything that actually numbs the senses more then arousing it. Oh, try blind folding her it increases her touch senses.
2007-12-11 10:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Jason K 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Some women NEVER have an orgasm
2007-12-11 10:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by Austin H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife never had one until our first child was born. It blew her mind when she did. Now she can only do it with self-stimulation. You might have your gf try that. Otherwise I don't think you have any control over it. You just have to get her really hot with lots and lots of foreplay.
2007-12-11 10:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should be asking yourself if she has had other issues, in the past.... sounds like its time to ask some questions and talk to her find out what the real deal is.
2007-12-11 10:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋