I know my question sounds confusing. You know when you see women on t.v or in books that are single and are doing alot with their lives when they are single and some grow to be stronger, happier and you look up to them but to be honest you don't see those same stories when your married. It looks like you have to be single and have a clear mind mind. Kind of like when you have a low self esteem, it can grow and grow but when your married, your with the same person and that probably why you have a low self esteem. Im not against marriage (im married) and I want to be proven wrong. What do you think?
2007-12-11 01:53:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I agree with SIU - The grass always looks greener on the other side. I've been married 221/2 yrs. now & like to think that thru time I've become mentally stronger & happier. I have a son in college & I work part time & am proud & pleased with my accomplishments. If you feel you have low self esteem because your "with the same person" then maybe you made a bad choice. I sure don"t feel that way.
2007-12-11 02:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Karebear 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is real life not a movie or a book. Reality is not a long haired cowboy sweeping you off your feet after a long day of farm work for a roll in the hay. It looks like you admire the single life. Single people have the same problem as you only they see married people and admire them. The reality is that people have problems in life and they can not be solved by admiring other people. What are some things you enjoy about being married that single people do not have?
2007-12-11 02:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think that a married woman has more potential to grow. If she has a loving, supportive spouse or partner, she can grow more than a single woman without a similar committed relationship.
2007-12-11 08:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by smt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if the husband's goals and direction in life is parallel to the wife's...
More often than not.... marriage is a way of chaining two people together who would naturally whizz off in different directions then end up yanked backward by their chains and becoming resentful of the other person for not letting them go their own way.
Marriage is a messy scenario.
Unless you can marry someone whose very existence is in parallel or tandem with your own.... I'd advise abstaining.
2007-12-11 02:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lucid Interrogator 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are confusing strength with achievement. Those "Hollywood" single women have no other responsibilities... so they can go out and do whatever they want.
Married women ARE (many times) doing what they want... raising a family... and I'm sure they do it with just as much strength and determination as a single woman does her job.
2007-12-11 01:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by pip 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋