what does that make me??? i always try to find other people's flaws.....and then i try to see how and why i'm much better than that person....i always try to out do other people...in dressing,dancing and anything,,i'm always competing
2007-12-11 01:49:22 · 13 answers · asked by =lost soul= 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
wow..it is some really well put together people on here..i like that!! i am really trying to better myself as a person...thanks for all your answers!..i wish i could choose them all as best answers
2007-12-11 02:31:20 · update #1
i use to be like that....living with fake self esteem..judging others...competing..and etc....then i grew up and realized that there is more to life then a pretty face..i was wondering why all my relationships failed...and it was b/c i was to on my high horse....then i fell off....."reality kicked in"..hope it does the same for you!
2007-12-11 03:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that we constantly judge by appearance, but I am a believer that ones appearance is one of the first things considered when meeting a person. Most people, whether they admit it or not, immediately consider whether a person they are meeting for the first time is a potential partner for sex. That being the case, the way we look helps to answer that question. We each judge people based on our own likes and dislikes. If you are a rich white man from Beverly Hills, you are less likely to begin associating with a black woman named Shiniqua who wears ghetto versions of tribal materials to show that she is proud of her roots. Sheniqua, MIGHT be a college graduate with a career in physics, but because we make our first judgments off how a person dresses, you may never know that.
2016-05-23 01:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put it like this, NOBODY and I mean NOBODY is perfect including you. When you start competing with people based upon what you see on the outside, you will fail every time. You can't never judge a book by it's cover. You are like that because you have yet sat down and thought how negative your flaws are. You have no sense of identity or personality cause if you did, you would NOT try to out do or be better than someone else. I don't mean to come off rude but there is always going to be a person that dresses better, look better and have better things. Do you want to know why? Cause this is life. You have to accept that you are a unique individual and what makes you special is you. No one can be you or copy you. You have to find out what makes you so special. Develop your own personality, walk, talkand etc... When you do, you will never have time to out do anyone. You are no better than anyone and no one is any better than you.
2007-12-11 02:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You hate yourself. In fact, you despise everything about you. And try to make everyone feel as crappy as you. This is a sorry existance. Girls like you are the ones who pick fights for no reason and claim injustice where there is none. I hope you keep working on this self-discovery journey of yours and fix this ego problem.
2007-12-11 02:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by forestbythesea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means you are shallow and self absorbed as well as insecure. Anytime we have to put people down to make ourselves feel superior is a sign of insecurity.
This is a really sad condition, hope you plan on making some changes. This behaviour will get you nowhere in life.
2007-12-11 01:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by Choqs 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Superiority complex, you feel as if you are better than other people. How would you feel if someone downgraded you by the same criteria you use? Ask yourself that question when you feel the need to outsue someone. Counseling would be a good idea.
2007-12-11 01:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Practical.
People are irrelevant slivers of walking filth.... better ignored and best eradicated...
Taking the time to judge them by anything more than appearance alone unless they are actually going to have more than a passing influence on your life is a waste of time, RAM and REM-Cycles.
That said... there is no point taking the time to criticise or antagonise them either. As I said: they're worthless. Ignore them completely for best effect.
2007-12-11 02:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lucid Interrogator 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
people who judge are afraid of being judged.
so that makes you insecure.
the next time you notice someone's flaw, try to notice something good about them. make it a habit to notice the good every time.
2007-12-11 01:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by name 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's just because you are very competitive on somethings and you have a misconception of others you have to get to know them first before
2007-12-11 01:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by yaneth 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you have issues with self-confidence and self-esteem not to mention it's just shallow. just remember the golden rule...do unto others as you wish others to do unto do. in other words, if you don't want others to judge you, don't judge them!
2007-12-11 01:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋