Don't you know how there are some people who you love but they have so much about them that is unlikeable? Like, they are rude to others, maybe selfish or thoughtless. Isn't that hard? I think it's the test of time---loving those who are hard to love in spite of their short comings. Sometimes with people like this my tolerance get's so challenged... How do you cope with this?
2007-12-11 01:12:14 · 13 answers · asked by Stranger In My Heart 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
...and I don't mean only romantic love, although that too, It may be a child, grandparent, life-long friend...etc...but you really love them. It's especially difficult when they are someone whom you can't just "cut" from your life, and EVERYONE else feels the same way about them. I guess if they don't just fall flat on their face and eventually humble themselves, they'll just end up all alone someday, selfish and nasty, wondering why no one can stomach them!
2007-12-11 01:47:12 · update #1
I love my sister but she's a rude nasty ***** often too many people so I pretty much ignore her at all costs - I never call her or see her if I don't have to -- the point is --you don't have to "like" anyone - by overlooking or "putting up with" rude and nasty people you are kind of approving of their bad behaviour no? Either confront them and tell them to act like a normal friggen person or tell them you are stepping back b/c you are embarrassed by their bad ways and you are not stupid enough to put up with it anymore... have some self respect and find some better people to surround yourself with!
2007-12-11 01:18:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly what you are saying!!! I am married to a man that is hateful, intolerant and negative, and that is only a shortlist. On the other hand, he does have some fantastic qualities and i'm very attracted to him physically, emotionally and intellectually. I think if you truly love the person, you need to take the good with the bad, even if the 'bad' side of them seems more prevalent. My tolerance is also challenged, so in some cases, i simply choose to ignore the bad behaviour and laugh at some of the ignorant behaviour. I have noticed that a lot of it depends on his mood. Quite often i feel as though he acts like a child, so I even have to resort to treating him like one. I never take him too seriously and i think he realizes that i have a 'cut off' point...don't push it, i only have a certain amount of tolerance. If i truly felt that i had to leave this relationship for my own well being, i could do that easily too.
2007-12-11 01:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by leolady0765 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is one of those people. I love him so much that I can't imagine life without him! But I don't like him. Doesn't make sense, but it's true. I'm not the quiet type of person, so when he pi**es me off, he hears about it. I ignore his mood swings, temper tantrums and bit**iness. I laugh when he gets really grumpy over nothing and I somehow manage to not kill him!! lol Basically, I love him enough to deal with all the sh** he puts me through, because I know he will get better eventually. He used to be REALLY unbearable, but I guess my attitude is rubbing off on him. I told him that his dad told me he was selfish and rude, and that made him think about how he acts. Anyway, if you love someone enough you can overlook certain things, but it's not easy. Sometimes I wish that I could have choosen who I fell in love with, but that's not possible.
2007-12-11 01:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by christina30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here is a useful trick.
Keep at the back of your mind all those things you don't like about him. As long as your relationship lasts, do not remember any. Love him to its full. Enjoy the feeling, the sharing. If something unfortunate happens and he wants out, those hidden thoughts you have kept, will be your remedy. You will bring them to the front and soon you will realize that your Prince was just a commoner.
2007-12-11 01:17:18 · answer #4 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I find keeping some distance is helpful. One of my best friends can be rude, childish, and likes to try and embarrass me in front of other people. I love him and we've been through a lot together so I deal with it by spending time with him in small doses, and try to keep it one on one time. When we are hanging out, if I start to get angry or frustrated I usually just go do something else to avoid a fight.
2007-12-11 01:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Bean 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sometimes hard to like my sister, but I've shared so much with her that it's impossible to just let her go. I just have to constantly remind myself what my life would be like without her. It's not an easy thing to do, but it's definitely worth it because you'll have to meet a lot of selfish people in life.
But avoid becoming close with those kinds of people when you can.
2007-12-11 01:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
u sure u love him? if u can see all his bad side and u dont like all that, maybe u should question the feelings u have for him. and since u know all his bad attitudes, u sure u wanna love that guy? i mean, if u realizing those now, means u still have the chance to get him the hell out of ur life, before u got blinded by love and be miserable. well, thats only a thought of mine, peace out!! :p
2007-12-11 01:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by applecheekgal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I try to see all the beautiful and good things inside of them and try and not focus on the bad things .. If it really bugs me I might talk to them about it or try and show them in another way that it's not cool x
2007-12-11 08:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by MOONWALKER1♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't cope with it, because I don't give rude ugly people the time of day
2007-12-11 01:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Pirate ♥ Kitten 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just stick it out honey
2007-12-11 01:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋