Not physically abusive, but emotionally. And verbally. Whatever you do it's never good, or they don't even notice it. They ever told me that I was very ugly, and once I had severe allergy and got my face all swollen, and my father's comment was: "What an ugly mug you have! But you ever was ugly." Then, whatever I start doing, they say me to stop, because something like you would never succeed, anyway. If I do, they do not notice it, and if I don't, they are gleeful, especially my mother. I started going out with that man, and she criticised him, and said he was awful; when we broke, she said: "Oh! You can't even get married!" I got a PhD, and at first it was hilarious - who'd give you one? - and afterwards - the wrong PhD! I thought it was all right till I drove in a taxi, and it was a long drive, and a taxi driver started talking about his daughter - who had a PhD, never ate any meat, but loved cherries, and won in a local best shaped woman competition - just like me!
2007-12-11 00:42:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And he was so proud of her, and for my parents the same things made me a freak!
I tried to talk to them, and explained to them how their comment and behaviour hurt me, and the reply was: "Do you want us to flatter you? Can't you handle the truth about yourself?"
What do I do now? Whenever we communicate it made me feel so bad, and I thought about dumping them altogether, and just having my life, but you can't do it to the parents?
2007-12-11 00:43:28 · update #1
Uh yes you can.If they are not gonna support you 100%.Then you should see how they handle not having you to criticize.
It sounds like you have your head on your shoulders and should be proud of what you have achieved.Despite having parents that sound like dead weight to me.
I am a successful businessman.Before I was though I worked menial jobs and never had anything.My mom was always there pushing me and encouraging me.
Maybe they feel inferior to you and that is how they make up for it.
You are doing good.Just dont talk to them for awhile and see how they act.If they are not gonna support you.It is ok to distance yourself from them.There will be a day when they need you.Just wait on it.Hopefully they will see how they messed up.
Good luck
2007-12-11 01:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing for you to understand is that parents are human beings no different to the rest of the world, the only thing that makes them different in our eyes is the emotional side of things,so if they do not realise they are hurting you, they will continue to do these things to you.
It is really up to you to firstly look at yourself and be comfortable with the person you are, then set your limits as to how much more are you going to tolerate their comments and make it known to them. Finally, if they know (because you told them..) that they hurt you and they continue to do it, maybe the time has come for you to take some serious action and make them aware that if they continue their silly practice they will just build a barrier between you and them and you won't be telling them any more personal issues or making them part of your life..then the ball will be on their side of the court for them to make a decision.
2007-12-11 09:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by keeping the dream alive 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are that verbally abusive to you, then you need to do what is best for you, not them, but you. If that means not seeing them, then do just that. But you also need to talk to a counselor about what you have been put through. You need to work passed parent that seem not to know how to raise a child with love & understanding.
You are not them, you deserve so much better then that. So it is time for you to take care of you, never mind them, let then sit in their self lothing they seem to like it there.
You go be the best person you can & want to be, & remember what you have been put through growing up & never do the same to any other human being.
2007-12-11 09:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are pitiful! They put you down in an effort to feel better about themselves. That's sick! You are old enough now to live on your own; have your own life; keep in touch with your parents but keep your distance. Don't talk to them about your successes because they're jealous of you and this would just give them more chances to verbally abuse you. I am sure you are a beautiful person and you can make anything of your life that you can dream of doing! Be an overcomer! God bless!
2007-12-11 08:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a tape recorder and tape them when they are yelling at you.
2007-12-11 08:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by morningstar6707 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋