When you have a reputation for being easy or having slept around alot, do you think it's possible to overcome that or will potential girlfrieds/boyfriends always judge you for it? If you feel that there is a way to overcome that, how would you think one would go about doing it?
2007-12-11 00:31:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's tough when a young person's reputation is tarnished, but I know anyone can reclaim their dignity and redefine themselves. It might be a slow, hard process, but it can happen. It might require pulling back from certain friends. Throw yourself into your studies. If you have a talent like art or music, make it a priority. Begin exercising....long walks to clear your head and boost your self esteem. It might also be in subtle changes....like the way you wear your makeup or dress. Try out a fresh look or a new cute hairstyle. In time, your attitude will reflect the inner change inside you, and people will see you in a different light. Remember, it's likely not to happen overnight, but it can happen.
I've always believed the majority of young girls go looking for love in all the wrong places when all the young guys are looking for is sex. Girls mature faster and their feelings get involved; boys aren't even emotionally capable of understanding. Gather up your pride. You or the person you describe here hasn't done anything irreparable. Forgive yourself for foolishness and set out to become the beautiful woman you are destined to be. God bless you.
2007-12-11 00:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show them by your actions. It may take awhile, but the end results are worth it. Don't worry about whether they get over it. They have no right to judge you in the first place. The judging comes from our sinful natures. I have been ,where you are. With the help of the Lord Jesus Christ I have overcome many things in my life.He has given me the strength to do so. You are worth so much more honey. Don't let anyone use you for their gratification, because that is all it is, if you are not in a true loving relationship. Save yourself from this point, for the right person, and he is out there. Get more involved with other things. I am sure you are probably in school, so set your sights high, do the work you need to do, to get to where you want to be. Trust in the Lord Jesus Christ, he loves you so much, he gave his life for you. God has good plans for our lives. Sure, we may hit some bumps in the road, have to travel through some valleys or over some mountains to get there, but he will walk you through all of those things. God Bless you.
2007-12-11 00:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Godlover 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best way is to ignore you reputation from now on. Everyone makes mistakes. Of course it is possible to ignore, don't be that way any more, anyone who brings up the past once you have changed, just state that you admit you made mistakes and have now grown up and have changed, will take time and people soon forget.
2007-12-11 00:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an easy way to fix it:
Move.
Get new friends... new environment... new social setting.
Then people will be meeting you from scratch again and you get another chance to portray yourself in a different way.
If you prefer a less drastic approach... just let the people who think you're easy come to you and then shoot them down in dramatic ways. The difference will set in eventually.
2007-12-11 01:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lucid Interrogator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to overcome such a reputation if you would really try & prove to those people that u are not gonna be like that anymore.If anyone would want to be with u and just want to have a fling,your gonna have to say no & that would prove them wrong.
I've been through this stage and what change me is my religion, i've really come to know the thruth and it turned my life around.
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2007-12-11 00:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by saga92 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry, as you grow older, that part of your life will slowly pass away. I believe in God so the sins of my past (not necessarily sexual in nature) have been forgiven. The difficulty comes when you fail to forgive yourself and continue to punish yourself by constantly telling others about it or re-living it all. You're ok. You're not alone. The number one thing most people over 50 regret most is not going to school or following their dreams.
2007-12-11 00:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by cindyunion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a very big country, and a bigger world. Move someplace new and you've got a chance for a fresh start. Stay where you are and you're choosing to remain in the mess that you've created.
2007-12-11 00:34:48 · answer #7 · answered by Scrumpuppy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually you go through life and meet alot of new people, eventually none of those new people know the previous group.
2007-12-11 00:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by anton t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move to another town. Start over. When you grow up, select another circle of friends. Look for new friends now.
Go to church and repent...if that appeals to you.
2007-12-11 00:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by In the Kitchen 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Move away and find new friends and don't let them in on your little secret.
2007-12-11 00:39:52 · answer #10 · answered by one10soldier 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋