Did you grow up in a close knit family,then lost ur roots due to a cruel stepparent/scandel/manipulatio,ect?

Question

I did.
However rebuilt my life,even tho it took almost 20 yrs.
I consider myself quite blessed overall.
Perhaps in some ways it was a blessing in disguise
ANY similiar stories?
Thank you in advance.
Your answers will have comforted me overall influencing me to feel left alone w/the issue(s) I previously dealt with in the past
TY

Answer 1

Wow, yeah, I have a story. I grew up in a very close knit family. Even my grandparents, aunts and uncles were close with us, we were together all the time. Then my mom got sick with cancer and the family became even closer. She died and suddenly I found myself 12 years old with no family. My super close knit family disappeared. I know now it was grief, or weakness on their part (or I tell myself that) but it doesn't change the fact that my life turned in a different direction very suddenly and I was deeply effected. My bio father wasn't a part of my life. I had met him and my step mother three times prior to my moms death. When she died my dad said he (they) wanted me. I lived there for one week. I came home from school and all of my things were by the front door. I felt like I had been punched in the stomach (I can still feel that feeling). As a child, of course I wondered what I had done. He told me he knew I was unhappy and was sending me to live with another family where I might be happier. (no sh!t I was unhappy, my mom had just died and I was two states away from the rest of my family and all I had ever known). The family he sent me to live with was abusive and I ran away so many times they gave up custody and I spent the rest of my teen years in foster care. I have a great relationship with my dad and step mom today. He told me the truth about my sudden move about 9 years ago (I'm 36 now). Turns out he and my step mom had decided before marriage not to have kids. So my step mom couldn't handle having me around. She told my dad that if he didn't give me up she'd divorce him. I still love them both tremendously. I have an enormous capacity for forgivness. I've had to, if I didn't imagine the hate I would have in me. Instead I am full of compassion. I have forgiven my entire family actually. Now I am starting a business that will help other girls who have lost their moms to keep some sense of family, who they are. I pray it works out. All I want to do is help others in this awful predicament.

Answer 2

I think there are many of us who have problems of this nature. I agree that these experiences have made us who we are. I'm very glad that you have gotten yourself together and made a good life for yourself. It is difficult in these situations not to miss place accountability or blame, as one has a tendency to still "feel" these things through a young heart & mind. For some reason we always go back there as innocent young people who were crushed. Having to reassess these situations as an adult we often can understand why certain decisions were made. There are some situations where people didn't have any good options and, perhaps had to accept the worse of two evils. It's a terribly sad thing, but it's true.

If someone tries to reconnect with you and wants to now have a loving relationship that is healthy, I hope you are willing to do the right thing, forgive and try not to judge to harshly.You don't have to be left alone with any issue you know... it's up to you. There are plenty of support groups and lots of good councilors.

Answer 3

We were a very close knit family when I was growing up. About a year after the death of my brother, I came back home for good to help out my parents. Once I got here, it seems as none of the family wanted me here. My parents even sense it as well. I have been made to feel like an out cast or the black sheep of the family (except for by my parents).

Answer 4

i do no longer understand if this is bodily available for me to root against the Georgia Bulldogs...this is purely one thing that i can not think of ever happening. i'm a girl who won't even placed on orange and blue by way of fact of ways lots I hate the Gators, a girl who owns greater GA merchandise that i'm able to count huge form, a girl who's all Dawg all day with purple and black blood and a Bulldog heart. even while Georgia blows a game (or a season) they're nonetheless my Dawgs.

Answer 5

No, I was born into a dysfunctional family only we
didn't have that word back then. It was just a drunken
old man who beat up my mom
and me and shot rats off the
ash pit out back.
but they're all dead now,
so I get to live in peace.
that's one of the perks of
getting old (well older let's say.)

Answer 6

Parents got divorced and a year later mom took her own life. It pretty much split the family asunder. Talk occasionally with siblings but not often enough.

Answer 7

I am very blessed to have always stayed very close to my family.
But I admire you...You have pieced your life together after 20 yrs.
Blessing for a lifetime of happiness yet to come.

Answer 8

yea we were real close at one time,but after my old granny died many years ago,my aunts and uncles never even called me again,and they only lived 5 miles from me.i tried calling my aunt a few years back and she told me i had to make an appointment to visit,well i never did.she is real old and and feeble.even my cousins dont call or write.so much for close family.

Answer 9

No - I was lucky...after reading these stories so far my heart is aching!