Question for those in a serious relationship?

Question

My partner and I live together and are planning a future together that includes marriage and children. He is a successful business man. He has been given a fantastic opportunity to buy into a huge company as an equity partner. This would mean us moving to another state. I am a professional earning a good salary, nowhere close to the same scale as what he will be making, but love my job. My family are here and my mum is not well and has been told her outlook won’t be good in 12 months. Should I go or should we do the long distance thing for 12 months? Could that cause the end of our relationship?? We are madly in love and I don't want him to miss out on this opportunity and regret it.

We have been together for nearly 3 years in in mid 20s he is early 30s

Answer 1

You and your partner need to talk and see what he thinks about you staying. If you really feel like you need to be with your mom then stay, don't regret not spending time with her, your partner will understand. 12 months in a long distance relationship can work, its hard and takes a lot of communication, trust and honesty but it can work. I've been in one for 4 years now and we are okay, we have about 2 or 3 more to go before we can even think about moving in together. The distance and work for some and not for others so like i said before talk to him and ask what he thinks and if you are both willing to put the effort into the relationship (it sounds like you two are very close and can make it work). If you decide to do the distance invest in webcam so you can see eachother online that helps. Also sign up on SKYPE (its free to sign up) and you two can call eachother pc to pc for free (cheaper than phone if its too much). Letters are nice too they are more personal and its a nice surprise in the mail. Email me if you have more questiosn, sorry to hear about your mom. good luck

Answer 2

If it is truly a serious relationship, then I would do it in a heartbeat.

But how long have you two been together?


edit:
Well, you are in a difficult situation indeed.
The main concern is that your mum is not well (I'm sorry, I didn't see that the first time i read your question)...

If you pursue this life with him, will you forever regret that you missed out on special time with your mother?

"Can 12 months separated cause our relationship to end?"

I have a story to tell you. But first, remember this... it is not certain your mother has 12 months. She may have 3 months. She may have 5 years... Be prepared for any outcome, that's how life is. So maybe it's not a good idea to base your future on a simple 12 month prediction.

Now for the story...

My parents both grew up and fell in love in a foreign country. Dad was a hairstylist, Mom a manicurist. When Dad first met Mom, he told her he would marry her. Their relationship was very romantic, like something out of a classic movie — even I would be skeptical that they wouldn't last together. Eventually they worked at the same salon and got married.

They wanted to come to America. But they couldn't come together because they didn't have enough $$ to start a new life, even though they were both doing well where they were, respected in the local fashion industry. So they saved up money together, and my dad came to America alone.

In America, no one would accept him as a hairstylist because he couldn't speak well and didn't have the credentials, so he began sweeping floors. He did that for many months, saving up money for my mom. She was saving too. Eventually, after a year, she was able to come.

They bought a house and a salon together in an up-and-coming area. Now, 35 years later, the salon is in Denver's wealthiest spot and my parents are more in love than ever.... and they are respected around here.

So that's the story.

So, yes, you and your partner can survive a year if you really love each other. My story was longwinded but I wanted to make another point: People say you should never work with your spouses, and you should separate business from home. But look how well my parents are doing.

Forget what people say. Who are they to judge on matters of love? Real love is rare and most people have never tasted it. Most people do not know anything about commitment, or pure unselfishness.

Nothing can get in the way of real love. Even 5 years apart.

So, I guess you just have to figure out if yours is real love. If so, you canenjoy your time with your mother and he will understand. :)

To give you some perspective, if I was in your partner's situation ... I would think about it for a few days but I would respect her decision to spend time with her mum. And I would not feel offended that she "chose" her mother over me. I would be supportive. Being without her would be tough (because I love the physical as much as the emotional) but I would be happy that I am provided this opportunity to build a strong, lasting relationship with a woman...

Answer 3

I would pack my stuff and move. I would not think twice about going with him.With you being a professional you can get a job anywhere you move. Your moms prognosis is going to be the same no matter where you live. If you need to come back when she gets worse I would do that temporarily. You can also visit frequently.