I (20years, a model and soon a uni graduate) have been dating this guy (24 years) that has two kids, and to tell you the truth isn't that good looking at all. But I have fallen deeply in love with him and the two girls. I have met all of his family and stay over his place all the time over weekends. My family would have never imagined me to go for somebody with kids and are very disappointed in me. They said they would never approve of him and would never want to meet him. I love and respect my parents and family dearly, but on the other hand I am so in love with him.
My dad is crazy!! And he still doesn't really know but has a fair idea about it. He said if I am dating this guy (which I denied), he would go around there and bash the f*&# out of him!! My brothers and uncles want to go round and "half kill him". They say he is only going to get me pregnant and leave me, but i know him and he is a beautiful person!!
I feel I am hurting my family because of my love for this man!
2007-12-10 16:53:49 · 9 answers · asked by Mandy B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have been dating for 6 months and my boyfriend has had a lot of dramas in his previous relationship with his ex. She cheated on him and left him for another. This guy i am actually dating is one of best friends brothers which makes it even harder! My best friend and I are very close, and eventually she accepted the fact i was dating her brother. This too, has a big effect on everybody!
2007-12-10 17:18:29 · update #1
It's far too soon to think of anything longterm, you are very young and should be concentrating on your career.
The fact that this man is only 24 and already has two children from a previous rocky relationship would make me very wary of him. Frankly, I hope you are seriously using birth control as he obviously doesn't worry about getting women pregnant. I am not saying you should definitely give him up, but I think you should just keep an eye on his behaviour and his way of dealing with others, so that you have a realistic idea of whether he is a good person or not. If you were my daughter, yes, I would be very concerned for you.
2007-12-10 22:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not dig your own grave. World is a big place and instead of making your parents, brothers, uncles and family unhappy with your foolish 'infatuation' towards that not so good looking and married man, find a handsome prince for yourself. I hope you have not gone too faaaaar with him. By the way, is he a widower or divorcee? In any case, keep off.
2007-12-10 17:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Vasanthkumar Mysoremath 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough love, wow. Your parents can make your life happy or miserable also his family and ex, is always something to consider. My self start fresh there are a lot of good guys out there that want to start a fresh life.
Your family don't want to see you hurt. Parents have been there done that and seen that.
It's your life.
2007-12-10 17:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult and you do not need their permission. They are disappointed in you because he has children? And you respect this? The decision is yours and you need to make it for you. You parents and family are closed mind bigoted people. You have to do what is best for you and what will make you happy. You are going to do a lot of things in your life that your parents will not like. They do not have to like it. They can make their own decisions and you can make yours.
2007-12-10 17:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its hard to choose between ur family and who u love but in the end its ur happiness that matters. follow ur heart and do what makes u happy not what others want u to do. if ur family really loves u (which im sure they do) they will eventually get over it and accept ur desicion to be with this man.
2007-12-10 16:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by yan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He makes you happy, yes?
If he does, then your family have to accept it. It's who YOU want to be with, not who your family approve or disapprove of.
Don't throw away something special to make your family happy, because you will only disappoint yourself and be left with a regret.
2007-12-10 17:00:37 · answer #6 · answered by Curious Me 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
folow your heart your good enough to make your own decisions have a good luuck
2007-12-10 16:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by erick m 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do what YOU feel is right.
Your family sounds very abusive.......??
2007-12-10 16:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
get married and they can't do anything about it (=
2007-12-10 16:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by shteez 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋