I have been in a relashionship for two year, but just got dumped. In a new city I am all alone. How do I cope

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for two years now and I really thought that he was the one. We never fought, and when we did have issues we dealt with them right away. In the last 3 months he went away to school to a big city. I got accepted to the same grad school and department and I am moving into the same town. Before these last 3 months, we've never been apart. The long distance has put a strain on the relationship but nothing I would call serious. I thought that we would pick up where we left off when I moved. Last week I moved into my studio and the second day I was there he broke up with me. He said that he just didn't love me anymore. I know being in the big city for the first time was very exciting for him and I thought that maybe all the distractions could have been a contributing factor. He has changed (not for the worst) since he's moved. I thought he was the one. I have had boyfriends before but nothing like this. He was without a doubt the love of my life.(to be continued)

We would talk on many occasions about our future together ect... I feel we didn't give this a chance. But he says he's been thinking about this for a long time. I especially do not feel closure because he dumped on the second night I was there and we did not at least see for a month how thing would go; now I moved to same city. I am just so shocked about his decision and of course very hurt and very depressed and he knows I feel this way. He says that he would like to be friends with me one day, but not know because he doesn’t want to give me false hope. He's says there is no one else, and being in the same department I can see that this is probably true, however I cannot be sure. I am having a really hard time copping with this because I am in a new city and I don't know anyone and I am all alone. What makes it worse is that I am constantly reminded of him...since I see at school at least 3 or 4 times a week (in passing, we don't talk or make eye contact...). (to be continued)

I am feeling incredibly antisocial and I don't have anyone to turn to. I thought I knew him and I just cannot understand what went wrong and this change of heart. Please if someone has advice to give on how to move on, that would be much appreciated? I am loosing focus on school and it’s affecting my performance. I need to learn coping strategies so that I may focus. I am so lost.

Answer 1

Well this might not help, but what he did was parmount to KILLING YOU IN HIS LIFE! That was EXHAIL! He straite BURNED YOU!!! I mean SWHOOSSHHH he just CUT you out of his life, thats some total apathitic, total heartless, total evil thing he did to you. And you sappy heart is still pining for him? Wow hate yourself much? Obviously you do, because for one, you didn't grow stronger from your lesson learned her, because your not strong enough in yourself to learn that lesson. Then theirs the fact that you think any relationship with this guy was good, I'm afraid that theirs better out there his actions show that. But this is just plain twisted! Were you abused as a child? I mean really to accept this from a guy you most of been locked in a closet and bured with ciggerettes right? Because that would make sense, anything less then this and your just a fool for love, lost to the fact you have no love in yourself, stuck in a situation most people would thrive in, slowly dieing in yourself. You need a new direction in life, you need meaning, you need PURPOSE! So the best advice I can give you, is look for that ever where else but with him. ALSO CONFRONT HIS COLD-HEARTED **** WITH THE F'IN TRUTH!!! He just uncompassinatly made you a loner..... and he isn't EVEN trying to help, he deserves to get his butt-beat, and if I was their with you, I WOULD!