I'm usually sad, or down. I know I can kick in the really happy side of me sometimes, but I have a VERY short temper. That kind of ruins my relationships with alot of people.
How can i overcome this?
2007-12-10 14:51:38 · 7 answers · asked by V i k i ♥-- 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, i'm a teen
My anger and attitude problem has gotten so many friendships ruined sometimes I would start arguements for no reason.. I HATE IT
i know i can change just how??:[
2007-12-10 15:13:38 · update #1
ALSO I HAVE ALOT OF FRIENDS WHO SAY MOSTLY NEGATIVE THINGS (PLEASE DON'T TELL ME TO CHANGE MY FRIENDS..) but how can I let this NOT influence me?
I think tahats waht changed me...
2007-12-10 15:18:47 · update #2
You didn't mention whether or not you are a teen, when a great deal of this could be hormones??
You can take out self-help books...it seems you need anger management ones the most at the present time.
You can also take out books regarding depression...since you are sad or down often.
Walking outdoors every day has been proved to prevent or aid depressed people!
Try to eat healthily, and get enough sleep...these things really are important.
Cut down on caffeine
Take up meditation and yoga--books on 'how-to' are also available at the library.
Use aromatherapy. Lavender incense, candles, bath and body products are known to help calm people down when angry or otherwise. It helps some people to sleep better, as well.
Reading and writing are key tools for you. Reading the books from the library, and taking out your anger ON PAPER (write, draw, paint, etc.), just get it all down on paper. This is therapeutic, and does help millions of people.
2007-12-10 15:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel that anger and arguments are the main defense you have in life. So your ways of protecting and defending yourself are pretty much limited to anger and aggression (arguing).
It would help if you expanded your repertoire of ways to defend and protect yourself from negative influences and situations where you don't feel in control.
For example, I sometimes protect myself with a feeling of indifference, like l am bored and couldn't care less. Of course I do care, but this style of defense is better than lashing out at people. Another defense I have is not listening to people and tuning them out. It's like I have changed the radio station and am hearing a different one while they're talking. They might think I'm listening, but I'm not. And another defense I have is changing the subject when I don't like the topic. I just start talking about something else and they usually go right along.
Another thing is to keep a journal and vent all your negative thoughts in it. Then it will get expressed in a safer way.
2007-12-11 00:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Marina 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out what you are angry about,. Once you know what the root cause of your anger is then you will be able to take steps to get over that anger, The next time your short temper rears its ugly head, ask yourself what is making me so mad right now. Really be honest with yourself and your answers. When you get the answer then ask yourself why is this making me mad. Really think about why it is bothering you, Is it something from your past or is it just the current situation. If you take the time to ask yourself these questions you will accomplish two things, The first is you will be able to take care of the cause of your anger, either by forgiving, forgetting or choosing to move on. The second is it will stop the process of anger and the person that you are about to unleash your short temper on will escape unharmed. thus saving your relationships
2007-12-10 23:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you 'kick in that happy side'. It all comes from inside of you. Just decide on the ideal and be like that. But be sure never to doubt that it is within you
2007-12-10 22:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by highthoughts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without the help of a good counseler you wil never be able to find out all the WHYS you are so angry
2007-12-11 00:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens to me a lot. try to find something to calm you, whether it be music or squishing silly putty. something to take your anger out on instead of someone you care about.
2007-12-10 22:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose to not be this way...And it will be so...You do have a choice no matter what you think right now...
2007-12-10 23:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by DWInSTL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋