ok well whenever im with my friends im really loud and obnoxious and happy. and when we go to the mall or something im really happy too and im not self concious or anything. i go to a school with 4 other towns and when im not with any of my friends in a class im really quiet, timid, and i dont stand up for myself. this happens sometimes when i go to a store alone too. can you help me ? i dont know whats wrong with me....how do i get the confidence to be unafraid ?
2007-12-10 14:31:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
same here...its normal!
2007-12-10 14:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by ☮♡♥ ツ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems when you're with a group of friends you feel more comfortable and not alone. Somebodies attention may not be directed dircectly TOWARDS you, rather the group you're WITH.
When your alone, everybodies attention will be directed only at you, and no one is around to make you feel more fit in.
Maybe you just feel alone. Personaly, I've learned to grow, and not give a shitt what others are thinking of me. They don't know me. I have what I want in life..And it isn't anyone in the mall or in school.
lol [secretly] what i do is just feel like im the ****. Feel like everyone who looks at me is thinking something good. Even if they arn't..It helps. :]
2007-12-10 14:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not weird at all. your on the right track- it is a confidence issue. you need to find the root of the problem. its probly something that happened when u were a kid that made u afriad, or maybe little voices tell you you arent good enough. just start with thinking about all the hurtful things in your past, and dont be afraid to cry about them. then ask god to come and fill you with confidence and happyness. talk to him like you would a friend when ur telling them secret. just say "god, put your confidence in me, take away my fears with your blood, and make me happy. " remember, jesus died on the cross and went through suffering so you wouldnt have to. he loves you that much. he would have done it you were the only person alive. accept him into your heart. then go ahead and get confident: say out loud "i am confident" and "i am not afraid", if you think your fat, ugly, short, tall, weird, stupid, or you just boring, say the opposite. it works.
talk to me if you need to sweetie! i know what its like, i used to cry myself to sleep, and looking back , it was for no darn reason!
2007-12-10 14:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by That girl... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess is that when you are with your friends you don't care what others think of you because obviously you have friends already. Plus if someone says something they would have to say something to all your other friends to, and you would have more numbers and more people to defend yourself with. Alone, you kinda lose your safety bubble. More people can pick on you and you are alone. But I'm pretty sure it is basically normal for like a ton of teenagers.
2007-12-10 14:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this isn't weird. it's actually quite common. i see it among my other friends also. you're just more comfortable when you're around the people you know best, otherwise, you're silent. don't do anything drastic, but take it in little steps, like small talk with a person you know a little in class, make more friends. its hard, but sometimes you gotta make it awkward to even start something with someone.
hell! i do weird stuff and i get knew friends. im not all confident, but i'm like "might as well try" so i go up to them and say "hey! whatsup? i know i don't really talk, but felt like talking to you" it's weird, but it sometimes works.
i know, my methods are weird, but do what feels comfortable for you.
2007-12-10 14:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its totally normal
most people are nervous when
none of there friends are around because
they feel like there alone and hav no 1 there
2 stand up for them
i hav it 2..... every1 haz it
if u want the confidence try making new
friends in the places were u dont hav any so u wont feel
nervous cuz u hav friendly faces werever u are!!! =)
2007-12-10 14:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone acts different when they're with other people. Maybe those are just two sides to your personality. Learn to accept both of them. You wouldn't want to act the way you do around your friends in every situation, nor would you want to act like you do when you're alone. There's nothing wrong with it. Moderation is key.
2007-12-10 14:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by havemoicyonme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are getting your confidence through your friends . The real confidence comes within ourselves To help yourself to be confident without your friends you need to do sports or take a course in theater . Acting is very good to gain what you want .....Confidence but you have to take this course without your friends
2007-12-10 14:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it, its normal to feel more comfortable and confident when your with a group of friends.
dont be afraid, no one is judging you, there usually to indulged in their own business. maybe start by going out on your owna bit more, be confident enough to have a drink or lunch at a table on your own and work up from there.
2007-12-10 14:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal. Try slowly making friends with people in the class, then you'll get more comfortable.
2007-12-10 14:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should really start by talking to strangers because you get shy around them you pretty much think that strangers will treat u bad but not all of them r like that so u should start by makin relationships with completely strange people. trust me it will work.
2007-12-10 14:35:17 · answer #11 · answered by ulises 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋