What should I do when i think i'm pregnant with my boyfriend's kid...?

Question

Ok... well here's the story. At the senior prom I had a drink and me and my boyfriend of 1 month did IT at his house afterwards when his parents were away for the weekend. It was unprotected and i think i'm pregnant cuz i've been throwing up and i took a test and it tested positive. I haven't told anyone yet except my best friend that i might be pregnant. I haven't told my boyfriend or my family or i haven't gone to the doctor. What should I do and how should i tell them?

Answer 1

learn ebonics, get on welfare.

Answer 2

You should get tested again just to be sure and this time try going to a gynecologist, a free clinic or a Plan Parenthood that can give you a test for free. If you are indeed pregnant, you should talk to someone older who you feel comfortable with and who can give you trustworthy advice.

On the other hand, you need to also consider which path you want to take with this pregnancy.. do you want to keep the baby or are you completely incapable of having it? Consider all aspect of the issue--how it will affect you financially, personally, socially--because in the end this could change your life dramatically. And being an high school senior, think about how this might change your educational or professional future. And finally, think about how this might affect your relationship with your boyfriend of one month: is this a serious relationship you see lasting a long time? Is he someone who's responsible enough to step up to the plate of fatherhood?

If you do tell your boyfriend, try to steer away from blame and placing guilt. You were both involved in having sex, therefore you are both responsible. Try to stay objective and be honest with him about how you feel about this (if it scares/worries you) and get a feel of how he feels about it as well (is he supportive if you decide to keep the baby? does he sound like he's trying to not take any responsibility?) Just remember that you are not "the one to blame" in this nor are you the only person responsible.... so get an idea of how he feels and with everything else considered, you will begin to see what's the best approach to the pregnancy is.

In the end, how you react to the pregnancy and whether you go forth will be your decision. No matter what you decide, just know and be prepared for the consequences and/or responsibilities; be realistic, and reality will be easier to handle.

Lastly, I would also recommend you getting tested for SDTs being that it's your first time unprotected with him. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

UMMM, you would be due very soon, and if you are unable to care for a baby you need to consider adoption. I am kinda confused that you "think" you might be pregnant. I think you are in denial and you need to see a Dr ASAP to make sure you and the baby are healthy. Also, you should have felt the baby kick by now too. Unless, you have unprotected sex after the date you mentioned(prom) you should be showing and feeling the baby. If you had sex after prom sometime you would be not as far along. Either way I would see a Dr. Congrats on the baby though! They are a blessing and a true miracle to see what your baby is capable of making.

Answer 4

Was it homecoming or a fall prom instead?? I don't know how you should tell them because I don't know them, but depending on how people will react I think you should tell your parents and then your boyfriend unless you don't want to face them alone and then maybe you should tell your b/f and then your parents. You will then need to definately get that doctor's appt. set up because there is a lot of things that need to be done. If it was a fall event (like my sister has been in, since she is a Senior in HS) then you are between 2 and 3 months along.

Answer 5

Tell your parents and the father. Then you have to go to the doctor because all kinds of these can happen to you when you are pregnant, Trust me- I know. I had my first child at 21 and even though I was young I still had a high risk pregnancy with pre term labor to boot. Good luck and remember there are lots of options out there for you. Your life isn't over a new chapter is just starting.

Answer 6

go to planned parenthood or a local health clinic and get a test there. if it's positive there, you need to tell your boyfriend first, then you BOTH need to find an ob/gyn. together, you both need to tell your parents. it's not the end of the world. they might be a bit upset but in the end, they'll have a beautiful new grandbaby! the longer you wait, it's going to be harder to tell them and less understanding everyone involved will be.

btw, to those of you saying prom is in the spring...the school my son goes to has 2 proms. one in the fall and one in the spring. the one in the fall is less formal.

Answer 7

Go to your local county health unit and verify pregnancy before telling anyone. If you are pregnant it's not the end of hte world. Just a bump in the road. Tell your boyfriend and then tell your parents. If your parents find out first then the b/f might find out in a very unpleasant way. Whatever you do, dont get married because of a baby and dont drop out of school.

Answer 8

Sooner or later your going to have to tell them. Go to the doctor and get tested to know for sure. Get counselling with your boyfriend and decide whether you want this child or not.

Answer 9

Tell the father first. Then have him come over and let your parents know, and the same with his parents. You're going to have to do it sooner or later and you need to go to the doctor to make sure the pregnancy is going okay and take prenatal vitamins and everything.

Answer 10

If your test was positive then there is no "might be pregnant" about it - you are pregnant. Go to the doctor and then tell your parents.

Answer 11

Since proms are usually held in the spring, if you got that pregnant that night you would probably be showing by now. Have you noticed your stomach getting bigger?