i think i'm really conceited, what should i do to become more humble?

Question

on the outside, i don't act conceited, but i think my mind really has some conceited thoughts that need to be erased. any suggestions?

Answer 1

I know how you feel, I used to be conceited, but now I'm Perrrrfect...............#########

Answer 2

I would call that being vain. And what are the reasons that make you think you are conceited? Do you really have an exaggerated opinion of yourself? Do you feel you are better than any of your friends? All you have to do is prove to yourself that the answers to those questions are true then you are conceited. Conceit and humble do not mix. Once you get over the fact that you are not better looking, not smarter, not faster then you may be humble. However, never give up having confidence in your abilities, your talent, your will to succeed, and your constant effort to do better. Think well of yourself and don't let anyone see it.

Answer 3

You need to tweak your thinking hun, and to be honest if you can ask this question, your certainly not a lost cause. Most people that are conceited don't care, period.

I am not sure what thoughts your referring to and so can't answer your question completely. But, take a look around you. If you have a nice life, that is wonderful. But think about all the families out there that are barely struggling. Your friends that are having a tough time, or that kid you sit across at school who everyone seems to pick on, or worse yet, ignore. If you can look deeply, and come away with that knowledge that you need to work on yourself, than you can do what many others never can.

Now, quit kicking yourself, keep those thoughts under wraps and treat people as you would want to be treated. Something tells me that your all right hun.

Good luck
Guardianofthemoon

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with a healthy ego. You had better
think that you're the greatest at something or you'll end
up on a rainy night, waiting for a bus to nowhere. Be
realistic however and bust yourself on the things you know
nothing about. Nuclear physics is a good humbling
beginning. If you're talking about something as ephemeral
as physical beauty....and you're young, just remember,
you'll change. Your thighs will get bigger along with your
waist, your cute, pierced earrings will contribute to the
saggin of your earlobs, the girls will go south with the
years. Instead of focusing on yourself, why not focus
on the things you can contribute to humanity. Check
out Angelina Joilie's life turn around. Taking interest
in things outside of yourself will put a natural kabash
on your obsessive self interest. Humility has to be
natural to be real. It will come. Recognizing the
shallowness of self absorbtion is the beginning of
enlightenment in this area. Been there, done it...glad
to come out the other end a pretty nice human being.

Answer 5

Ask yourself why you are conceited first. Everyone is a little conceited but if you want to humble yourself think about all the people in the world who are starving, sick and not one nation on this planet gives a damn.

Answer 6

Do you treat everyone with respect and as an equal? Or do you sit and people watch and think derogative comments about them in your mind? If you do this then you are judging someone by their appearance or actions based on your own and this could be a form of conceipt. Though I think all of us as we are growing up have been guilty of doing this. The key is to realize no matter how you perceive other people, they have their own personality and ability gifts that make them unique just as you are. So tell yourself you are no better than anyone else because there are many things about them that you would have no way of knowing. You may be good looking and well dressed and popular but have say no artistic talents or musical or maybe gifted in sports . But the person you see as unappealing in apprearance may have great talents that make them your equal but in a different way.In other words, in your mind, don't judge a book by it's cover.There are however exceptions to this rule as in all things. Sometimes the book inside is as bad as the outside but read it first before you consider yourself better than someone else.

Answer 7

It is healthy to be confident. I have always been "conceited" and I am so thankful I wasn't cursed with the opposite! It is miserable to be ugly/not have pride in your looks. I've also been given so many more privileges that I can say with utmost confidence that I've truly had a fortunate life. I wouldn't want to trade my looks with anyone--not even a movie star. What I don't do, on purpose, is call attention to looks be it mine or others. For example, when I meet children, I talk to them about things they like and are talented at. I try never to complement a little girl for being pretty. I try to build her self-esteem based on what she is and not what she looks like. My 19-yr-old niece is so stuck on herself she has zero personality! That's pretty sad. Without personality you are nothing no matter how gorgeous you are!

Answer 8

It is allright to think highly of yourself and to be confident. At least you aren't showing it on the outside. But, if it is bothering you, realizing that you think too highly of yourself, or that you are too judgemental of others is a big step. It is kind of a hard thing to just "fix" or "stop doing", however, reach out to someone you normally wouldn't. Strike up a conversation with someone shy, or someone you might have been embarressed to talk to (I don't know if this is your problem). Stepping out of your comfort zone is hard, but it is totally necessary if you want to overcome a problem. Best of luck, and don't confuse being conceited with being confident! You should always be confident and happy with who you are, just not at the expense of others or to a point where it is bothering others. I'm sure you are going to be just fine.

Answer 9

How do you become more humble? Stop thinking so unhealthy and take a bite of humble pie.

Stop putting people down to build yourself up. Don't neglect someone because they are different that you, and blow some hot air out your ears and just be happy to be alive. Life isn't about being better than someone else, it is about being genuine.

Answer 10

You wouldn't be normal if you were not a little self obsessed. If you aren't looking out for you then who will? As long as you are a good person and treat others well then who cares if you stare into the mirror and think you are better looking than your friends and that fat people are gross for getting that way? Don't be so hard on yourself. See I am just like you!

Answer 11

hmm, are you somehow saying that you think you may be conceited, however you only want to appear to be humble without actually becoming more humble?

I'm not entirely getting the question you are asking here.