i'm 17 and she's 17 and i am soon to be shiped out to go in the army and i dont know if i should get married or what i have been dating her for 3 months and i just dont know if we have had enough time to really get to know each other but i really love her.What do you think?Yes or No.
2007-12-10 12:58:17 · 54 answers · asked by smitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No you are too young to get married.
2007-12-10 13:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Everyone hears the "no thats too young to marry thing" and when you're 17 you may not see why but when you get older you can look back and understand. First of all, I don't doubt you love her and congrats on that but 3 months is still not long enough to know if you want to spend the rest of youre life with someone, even if you were older. Second, I personally (and I know I'm not alone) have changed a lot since I was 17 (and that was only 6 years ago) and you and her will no doubt change and mature too over the years. The combination of your youth and how long you've been dating her probably don't make it a good idea to get married. The last factor is that for someone to get married, no matter the age, they shouldnt have to ask anyone else if they should. You would just know in your heart that you were meant to be together. :) Good luck!
2007-12-10 13:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP, WAIT, COME BACK!!!! Ok I have been a navy girl friend, a army girl friend, an air force girl friend, and I am now a Navy wife! I understand the whole "I want SOMEONE maybe anyone to come home too" but the truth is, is that the military has a high divorce rate! I think it's like a fairy tale to some girls, you know, run off and get married to a young soldier boy and see the country and maybe other countries! But deployments are very very hard on a marriage and you may find it over before it really begins! I suggest you take the advice that a few others have but on here and just get engaged and get your self thru basic training and then see where things go!
And dude, you are my hero and the hero of this country for serving this land! God bless you and watch over you out there!
2007-12-10 13:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by sisy_girl56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my gosh. You are old enough to go into the army, but not to get married. You aren't even considered an adult yet. PLEASE wait. What you want at 17 can be so different at 21 and later. And why tie her down and not let her enjoy her freedom and the right to date others? If the love is true, she will be there for you, having chosen you out of many, rather than sitting at home, writing you letters. And then you come home to what? An unhappy person who hasn't matured; you did, because you are in the army, but she just grew, not emotionally, just physically.
Please wait. What is love? After three months, it is lust. And never marry for lust. And when you are on leave, and go to Hawaii or somewhere exotic, are you going to hang out in your room? No, you'll want to be a free man having a good time. She deserves freedom; you deserve freedom.
What is the rush????? You have a lifetime (hopefully) together. Don't rush anything, especially picking a mate. She may be the best thing in your life right now. But in three years, you and she both may have other ideas, so keep your options open.
Does that mean you will lose her.? Better now, than marrying and then a divorce. You lose your paycheck and everything else, for what? Lust.
No, please, wait, Write letters to her, get to know her. (What is her middle name? What is her favorite food? What is her dreams for life?) Don't go on puppy love; wait for the real thing, with her or not. Don't chain each other to a dream.
Good luck in the service and thanks for protecting us.
2007-12-10 13:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT get married. If this friendship lasts while you are gone then is the time to think about a future together. You will have lots of stress worrying about having to take care of a woman when you are still so young yourself. She needs to be in school and getting a good education so she can be a smart and equal partner in whatever marriage she chooses when she is old enough.
2007-12-10 13:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think it would be a good idea. If you have to ask someone if you think its a good idea to get married,then you should wait. You are very young and have alot of oppurtunity in your life. Just take it slow and see how it goes. You will be going into the Army and that isnt fair to her or you to wait for eachother. Just stay friends and see what happens when you come back. Nothing wrong with waiting and see how things go. Take care of yourself when you are in the Army. God bless you!
2007-12-10 13:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by SNOOPY ROCKS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going into the army, it's best not to get married so soon. You two are very young and you will grow apart during the time you are in the military. Be gf/bf, but do not get engaged. You two are both going to change. Don't spoil what you two have now. If she can wait for you until you are done, then get married then, but not now.
2007-12-10 13:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ACK! Big no.
I know you'll hate to hear it, but 17 IS very young.
Also, if you're going to be going away to the army,
I really wouldn't reccomend it..
Being apart for long times changes things, you may grow apart!
Especially if it's only been three months.. you need more time to develop a relationship close enough to be married.
And if it really is love, when you're older, back home, and have been together longer, it'll be PERFECT and you won't even have to question it. Good Luck!
2007-12-10 13:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by yeah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think dating her for 3 months is enough time to determine whether you want to spend the rest of your life with her. You are both are young and most changes in your personality and what you like will change in your 20's. The true test is see if she's still waiting for you when you return. It's only my opinion, but you have to do what your heart tells you to do.
2007-12-10 13:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by ♪♫Just Me♪♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask complete strangers on an internet board if you should get married, then the answer is DEFINITELY NO!!
You're likely experiencing a lot of emotions right now since you're shipping out, but don't enter into marriage lightly and unsure. It's a hard but rewarding road, but if you're not sure, it's more hard than rewarding.
2007-12-10 13:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by Alfredo Garcia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO... there's always time for marriage. Don't tie yourself down at 17. Do her a favor and break it off before you leave.
If it IS love, she'll be waiting for you when you get back. In the mean time you can be free to live your life!
SHEESH.. just you asking this question means your not 100% sure! DON'T DO IT~
AND... Thank you for giving so selflessly by serving your country and making the USA a safe proud place to live and raise our families. I am forever grateful to you and everyone who serves our country. Bless you!
2007-12-10 13:03:16 · answer #11 · answered by Titzen_Ash_23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋