I want my life to end...?

Question

Everything seems to be crumbling around me. The only people I have left are my family. I dread going to school now, my friends seriously have abandoned me. I'm always down and depressed now. I wish my life would just end. All those people who I thought were my friends have turned their back on me. I have though about suicide...But I love my family to much. I'm 14yrs old, and in my last year of Middle School. Please give me your advice.

Answer 1

Get some outside help and build your support system.

Answer 2

I've thought the same things before (and still do sometimes), for reasons very different to yours that you probably couldn't fathom. The love of my family is what also keeps me alive.

Suicide does more damage to a family than you will ever know. It is the most selfish act a person can make.

The point is, if you have a strong bond with your family, talk to them. Be it your mother, father, an aunt or uncle, anyone you feel close to. But TALK to someone about how you're feeling. Talking helps more than you know; I speak from personal experience.

Together see if you can arrange seeing a therapist and try to work things out with him/her. That will also help you get your self-esteem back up from the pit it seems to be in right now.

Nothing is worth killing yourself over. You're 14, so these feelings are even more extreme for you, with all the hormones raging inside. Believe me when I say that you will get over this.

Seek out your family for support. See a therapist. Watch a few sit-coms or comedies (trust me, laughter is more helpful than most people think).

Please feel free to email me through my profile if you want to talk more about this, too. I've also thought about suicide a lot, so I have a good idea of what you're going through.

Best of luck, my friend.

Answer 3

"The only people I have left are my family."

"I love my family."

OK, you've got something to hang onto. A loving family is more than some people have. Yes, your life is going to end someday. So is mine. So is everybody else's. No need to hurry the end of everything. You're 14. Three years ago you were only 11. You know a whole lot more now than you did back then. Three years from now, you'll be 17, and you'll know a lot more about life than you do now. You've got a lot of changes for the better waiting for you in the near future. Trust me, they're worth hanging around for.

Answer 4

i've felt like this so many times. but i live by the saying, "in the end everything will be alright, and if it's not alright, then it's not the end." wise words those are. they always help be get by when i don't feel like going on any longer.

so my advice to you my friend, don't give up. talk to your friends and see what the problem is. maybe you can transfer schools as well, if you fancy it. and you're obviously a good person, because you have an immense amount of love for your family. so ask someone in your family for help too. i hope you feel better, love. stay strong, and don't give up, it's not worth it. you're a fighter, and remember God (if you're not Christian--replace God with life) never gives you more than you can handle. too many people love you for you to take your own life.

keep your head up little soldier.

Answer 5

What is depression?
Major depression is a serious medical condition. Everyone experiences "ups" and "downs" in their life. But for some people the "downs" can outweigh the "ups." This can cause problems with everyday activities such as eating, sleeping, working, and getting along with friends. If this happens for more than a few weeks, depression may be the reason.

Major depression affects a person's physical health, as well as how he or she feels, thinks, and acts toward others. It brings about a mixture of feelings and thoughts that can cause someone to depart from his or her usual behavior.

Major depression is very common — it affects an estimated 19 million American adults every year. Nearly twice as many women (6.5%) as men (3.3%) suffer from depression each year. The good news is that it is possible to manage the symptoms of depression.

What causes depression?
Although the exact causes of depression are unknown, it may be due to a chemical imbalance in the brain. Serotonin and norepinephrine are 2 chemicals used by some nerve cells to communicate. These chemicals, called neurotransmitters, are thought to be linked to depression. Therefore, medications that affect these neurotransmitters may play a role in treating depression.

A person may experience symptoms of depression suddenly, for no apparent reason, or after a life-changing event or medical illness. Some types of depression run in families, suggesting that a biological vulnerability can be inherited.

Take action if you believe you suffer from depression
As with any medical condition, depression should be treated by a health care professional. The first step toward relieving depression symptoms is to speak with your doctor as soon as possible. By seeing your doctor at the first sign of depression symptoms, you increase your chances of getting over these symptoms and keeping them from returning. Even if you've sought treatment for depression in the past, it is not uncommon for symptoms to return and interfere with your life again. Whenever you start to notice depression symptoms, don't wait to talk with your doctor.

Answer 6

wow, i remember last year (i'm in 9th grade) i used to feel the same. People made me cry, school was too hard. And everything went wrong. but believe me i've actually tried to commit suicude before, but its not worth it. If you kill your slef, all the ppl out there who love you will be hurt even more. And i know your parents love you, thats why thet shelter you. I also know that when you enter high school, you'll have another oppertunitiy to make friends (btw the "friends" who left you, they weren't true friends) And remember, i live is giving you a hard time, think of the people you love, ok?

and one more thing, you don't want your life to end. your just confused and lost like i was before :)

Answer 7

a famous psychologist once said "He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how". This means that you have to find the meaning of your life, like trying to think that your family expects something from you from the future or that you want something in life to be successful on. Try making a plan for your future.
Ask yourself " what would happen to me twenty years from now, if i killed myself would i miss all the things that makes life good, like good wealth, family or just happy life? or knowing that you will be respected by others.
Also, try thinking this way, that all the things that hurt your life only makes you stronger. That is, turn every disadvantages to advantage. Maybe the things that hurt you has a reason, maybe all this things leads to something, all clues leads to something..........

Answer 8

You have reached the point in your life where you are starting to see life for what it is. Do not kill yourself because friends come and go. Depression comes at one point in your life and it has happened to come now. Take a jog for about 15 mins a day and do about 25 pushups. Trust me you'll feel good. Be happy about yourself and remember love yourself for who you are. The opinions of others do not matter. Its all about you. Death is such a bummer. Eat healthy too. Do not drink too much sugar and look your best. You will get over it.

Watch this: http://youtube.com/watch?v=zbybzvLAUA4

Hope you feel good or you can email me too.

Answer 9

I feel the same way you do, I want my life to end right now. But we are not the ones to decide let those people walk out of your life you don't need them. (All we need is God) I never felt so depressed in my life until now (these last couple of days for me has been hell literally). I'm 18 yrs old and I don't want to go to college, I don't want to anything, but I will never give up in God and his wonderful son Jesus no matter what people say or do to us. We Will Survive (Trust me and Believe in him).

My motto is: Seeing is believing, believing is achieving...

So I tell you to See, Believe, and Achieve.

Answer 10

if you feeling suicidal then you need to see a therapist ASAP you cant just up and say you are ready to give up cause you know what you're just getting started wait until you start paying some bills or paying a morgage one day thats if you hadnt commited suicide yet. you still have a whole lot ahead of you and you havent really just seen anything yet. you need to get on your knees and pray to GOD and tell him about your situation. it cant be that bad to where you want to give up on life thats not the way to do it and i know you know it as well i wish i could meet you and tell you some things and show you some things that would make you change your mind. if you know GOD then you would know that he does not approve of suicide. think about the kids that have it worse than you you're blessed and dont even know it. you have to be careful who you choose you are your friends cause they will turn your back on you. you dont need them right now and probably later on you need to focus on whats going on in your life friends will do that to you and when you need them like right now they not gone be there for you. a true friend is someone thats going to be there the majority of the time someone you can really share things with someone who is honest and truthful and the same all the time not some time im 21 yrs old answering your question so i know exactly what im talking about. trust me your issue is not that bad to where you want to give up on your life and you say you love your family think about how they would react if you did that to yourself that would not be a good thing to leave them so unhappy and if you feel like your issue is that bad then go to someone in your family and talk to them and tell them whats going on with yourself and that s probably all you need is someone to talk to............you can talk to me through email [e-mail] if you want to talk im here for you i will listen and tell you what i can but please dont hurt yourself i hope to hear from you

Answer 11

It's good you have someones to love!!
My crazy mother raised me with a death wish instead of religion...
I have been there.
I'm still there, in winter...
But my son is my reason, and you certainly have your family!
That's wonderful.
Screw people.
They don't count.
There is only one person with whom I still speak from high school.
They don't count, if they don't want to.
Get some help, and make sure you get a doctor to check your hormones, etc. I was sick for ten extra years, long story, it was scary that not one therpist sent me, so I'm lettin goyu know you should get physically checked out, too.
OK good luck!