I'm 24.. Have been blessed to go to a private school for both H.S and college. My family is NOT rich, they just believed I could do more through private education. I identify with my race, but in ways I feel disconnected. I take offense when i'm told that I come off upity, even though I'm aware of the advantages I've had in life. I'm still african-american, get looked at like every other african american woman, and don't think that i look down on ANYBODY!
So where is this misjudgment coming from? Why am I being misjugded? What can I do?
Thx.
2007-12-10 12:11:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Are you sure that YOU are the one who needs to do something? Is it that you are truly being "uppity", or are the people you're around too insecure?
Think hard about your own question and the person (or persons) who are causing you to ask it. Are they jealous of the chances you've received? It sounds as if your parents made sacrifices to ensure that you had a good education, and you seem to appreciate those sacrifices. If your friends (co-workers, whoever) can't appreciate those things as well, it might be time to re-evaluate the relationship. Not from the standpoint of how YOU should change, but how THEY should change.
2007-12-10 12:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by CincyCat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off... why would you want to change yourself?
That's who you naturally are you can't help the way you
brought up to be. Those are your personality traits that some
people just may not be able to understand but don't go out
of your element just to be like every other person. Everyone
has their own opinion and many misinterpret things and they
take certain things to harshly and make to much of a deal
out of them. I know how it is I get told that just about every
single day of my life. Just because you act different than
majority of your minority people suddenly think its an act of
over-confidence, or over self-assurance. So the only thing I
would say is to just be yourself and don't worry about what
others think.
2007-12-10 20:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Tori 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously...and I don't mean to ruffle anyone's feathers, but SOME African Americans consider a well educated African American to be a 'sell out'. That's just insane to me. If being smart is selling out...then is being uneducated (or at least pretending to be) benefitting the race? Be proud that you're smart and can speak in complete sentances. It's not being 'uppity', it's (for lack of a better term) having your shi7 together!
2007-12-10 20:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friends what causes them to think this. It is simply a perception problem. You don't feel upity, but you are coming off that way. Unfortunately, perception is reality.
Either that, or get some new rich friends who look down on others and maybe they won't notice you as much.
2007-12-10 20:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Eric C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, this is the bigotry of others, not anything you have done yourself. Anyone who is an achiever will get this, especially if you are female or come from poor roots. (I had both). If you are bright and well-educated, you can expect that some people will be offended by that.
Just be as caring and as loving to others as possible, and try not to mention your successes too much. Be genuine, smile, and when someone says you are "uppity" then look hurt and say "That hurts to hear you say that...why do you think that?" and watch them back off.
2007-12-10 20:17:30 · answer #5 · answered by greengo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on who called you that, their are some ignorant people out there who will call you uppity or talk white just because you talk proper, if your attitude towards people is good, than don't worry about how those people feel about you, there are narrowed minded people in all races and classes, if people could crawl out of their social hole once in a while, people could realize people are not to be judged just because of little things like how someones grammar is or how they dress and etc.
2007-12-10 20:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by ARTY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The other people are probably aware that you speak better English, or that you know more on some subject...It could be jealousy..
But never change who you are to make someone like you..
You will be better off having a friend who likes you as you are..Eventually you will.
And remember you have to be friendly, and be a friend to have one!
2007-12-10 20:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by jalady 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Smile and thank your parents, then treat others just like you want them to treat you and all will be well. Instead of looking down your nose,lean forward and look stright at them. But thats just me! Don't let any one drag you down to a lower level just to be like them. You worked hard to get where you are. Be proud My dear. Live long and prosper.
2007-12-10 20:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by mtchndjnmtch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try talking less. it probably has to do with something that comes across in what you say - like that you feel superior to others. you get called this because of your behavior. what is causing others to 'misjudge' you?
2007-12-10 20:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
be yourself!! you obviously have confidence and proud of who you are! there is nothing wrong with that.... maybe these people who call you stuck-up are envious of you. as long as you treat people the way you want to be treated i wouldn't change. be who god made you to be!! best wishes!!!!
2007-12-10 20:18:42 · answer #10 · answered by sweetthang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋