im 23, she 23 She broke up with me, citing that she couldn't take my complaining. I was complaining because she wouldn't do anything with me and she being cold. We found out that she was pregnant, i didn't want it at first. I changed my mind. We had some fights and she would go to her mother house more often for random reasons, sometimes she would sleep over. My house was far from her job, so she would say that it not worth the traffic to come here. One day she said that i need to find her own place, then a few days later maybe we can find a place together. One day we got into an argument. And she lefted me, end relationship, and had the abortion- but it was planned that day. We talk, and she listen to consoling idea, but changed her mind the next day. she was flirting with me all week, then she let me kiss her. then next week she was like you not my man so don't expect that from all the time.she would ask me for phone sex then get mad, when i try something with her.now.............
2007-12-10 11:33:31 · 7 answers · asked by ace82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she later claimed that she still had feeling for another guy, while she was with me. A guy that she a fling with while i was on military deployment. she sent him nude photos of herself. But we she got back together with me she still was talking to him in the backround. I asked her to stop she refuses. she now says that if he asked her out, she would say yes, and he doesnt know that we are still married. she says she doesnt know weather she "in love with him". So now she goes out and leaves my daughter at the babysitter, and once she left my daughter with me and went out all night.He lives 20 mins away from me. Now she making hard to see my daughter. Placing all sorts of rules and stipulations.where i can take her...etc. When i gave her the divorce papers she says her lawyer has to see. then she said well she cant afford one so.. it will have to wait, then she said leave her alone she not in the mood, next morning she again refuse to agree. it a fair agreement. why is she like this
2007-12-10 11:39:49 · update #1
i know his name, i know his address, shes says that if he ask shell be his girl. by now i think there together but idk. he think were already divorced. she told him that when she first met him.
2007-12-10 12:45:03 · update #2
Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. Almost like she knows that the "grass is always greener on the other side" thing isn't real. I don't believe she is being reasonable or rational. Aside from you wanting to see your daughter, she isn't being fair on your daughter preventing her from seeing you. If you want the divorce to be final and you want contact with your daughter to be forced it may need for you to bite the bullet and get legal representation yourself and take her to court.
Either way, presenting traffic as a reason for not making visitation possible is not an adequate reason. My current husband has to drive for 4 hours to get his daughter to the airport so she can go to her mother's for visitation for half of the school holidays. She should think herself lucky that she doesn't have to do that.
By the way, not all women are like this. My ex husband and I have been divorced for 3 years and we have a friendly open line of communication for the sake of our kids and our sanity. We talk a couple of times a week about how the kids are doing and he sees them every weekend and for all of the school holidays and we visit each other during the school holidays so the kids don't have to miss me too much while they are with him and they are free to call him or chat to him on the internet whenever they please. We live almost an hour away from him and we share the driving on the weekends, he picks them up from my home on Friday and I pick them up from his on Sunday or I drop them off at his home and he drops them off at mine. He even will pick our kids and my step daughter up from school and drop my step daughter off at my home on the way to his home so I don't have to take my new baby out of the house to get one child from school. So much can be accomplished if people are just willing to put aside their personal differences and work together for the sake of these little people we have brought into this world.
I hope you find resolution to this issue before it has a long term effect on your daughter's bond with you. Good luck.
2007-12-10 11:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think she likes you but still like the other guy. ask her what the guy name is. she keep saying stuff about him. tell her if she wants him so badly go get him. get a new girlfreind and talk about her.she may think you suspicious . tell her you cant be playin melike a dog. she break up with you thine date another guy. she do it repeatly. tell her which one is it. she playin with your emotions and about your daughter. talk to her how you feel about the whole situation. do not hold nothing back say whats on your mind. make an agreement when you can have the child like on some weekends and days some days when school is out. she should appreciate you care for her cause there are alot of dads not there and you are there. you love your daughter and want to be apart of her life. tell her that you threw with but you might still have some feelings wit get a divorce with her.
you should of not have an abortion every child desrver to live how would you like if your mother had an abortion with you.
ask her why she all grumpy all the time have an attitude. think how she feel even though it is hard to imagine that. do what you have to do to end the marriage and find a better girl.
2007-12-10 20:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you even know it is your daughter? Insist on a paternity test.
You need to educate yourself about the law in your state/country as visitation and custody are spelled out in most state's superior court website.
Look for "father's right" organizations in your area as you can get a lot of free advice through them. You are in the same boat as many men and women take advantage of you because you are too forgiving. Get smart and play the law against her.
2007-12-10 23:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is absolutely insane get away from her as quickly as possible, not all women are that way just the crazy ones and I do believe you found their queen.
2007-12-10 19:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet her parents dropped her on her head when she was little and never told anyone about it.
2007-12-10 19:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women....?
2007-12-10 19:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's immature.
2007-12-10 19:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋