my mom is cheating on my dad...?

Question

I have known for about 2 years.

it makes me so angry that should would do something like that.

but what am I suppossed to do? She's my mom. I lover her.

My dad is a great guy, I guess they just fell out of love?

I have a feeling he knows but is afraid to do anything when us kids are live in the house...


ADVICE?
thanks.

Answer 1

First speak to your mom about this. She needs to know that you know and that it makes you feel bad. That she has to stop it or otherwise you will tell your dad. It's not blackmail or extortion. No! But if you tell your mom and she really stops cheating with your dad, it's better that your dad doesn't know 'cause he'll probably will get mad and leave her or something like that. And if she stopps cheating, what's the point of leaving her? But if she doesn't stop, then you HAVE to tell your dad 'cause i' sure that your dad really loves your mom and that it would kill him to know that the person that he's married with is sleeping with another man. So take my advice .I wish that everyting works out for you.

take care.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear you mother's cheating. What your mother is doing is wrong, but you need to stay out of it. If she's been cheating for at least two years, chances are, your father already knows. Whatever his reason is, he's living with it. Telling your dad now or putting yourself in the middle might open a can of worms. You may not get the results you want. It's got to be a hurting thing knowing your mom is cheating on your dad and that's a heavy load to carry, but there's nothing you can do. If your mom tries to involve you, then at that time, you can let her know how you feel. Please learn something from this for your peronal life: Marry a great guy like your dad and promise yourself, you'll never cheat on him. One other thing, not all married couples cheat, so please don't let what you're mother is doing make you believe other wise.

Answer 3

Hi, Payton. I'll start by saying that, while you are living with them, your parents' relationships are part of your life stability, so it is your business. This doesn't give you "controlling interest" in their lives, but does mean that you should be allowed some input if they're making each other miserable.

Unfortunately you didn't provide enough information to properly understand the situation. Marital relationships are very complex, and you can't apply one-size-fits-all solutions to them. It may be that your mom just doesn't really care about your dad's feelings and is just out for a good time, but doesn't want to divorce her (and your) meal ticket. It may be that she's horribly frustrated and feels trapped, but doesn't want to upset your dad with the truth. It may be that they figured out a long time ago that they aren't really compatible, but are trapped by their religious opinions, and/or he's fooling around, too.

Furthermore, they may have highly varied consciousness of their own situation. She may not know exactly why she's fooling around, she may be in complete denial about its significance in her marriage. He may be ignorant, suspicious, or completely aware of what's going on.

And, unfortunately, all of this has implications about what you should do, so I have to suggest you talk to your mom about it. She could fill in a lot of the blanks, she could explain everything, or she might stonewall you. In any case, it will make things a lot more comprehensible and let her know that she's not being as descreet as she may think she is.

Answer 4

Sorry to say hon but it is best if you stay out of it. There is now way you would not get hurt getting involved more then you are. Adults make different choice to live their lives that even other adults do not understand. Logic rarely has play when it comes to the hart. Its really a no win situation for you. If you talk to your mom she may resent that you know. Pulse it may be hard for you to stay calm if you hurt so much. If you tell your dad he may feel embarrassed and resent you for putting it in his face in a way he can not ignore it. Sorry to say live and live may be the best way to deal with it.

Answer 5

I don't believe there should be anything that you do in this situtation. The last thing parents want is there kids to be invoolved with their relationship problems. If you chime in and say something to either of them, then not only would they have to worry about their relationship, but then they'd worry about the whole family's relationship because now they see that their daughter is distraught over the whole situation.

I think for the least amount of damage to be drawn, you gotta say out of it.

Answer 6

Like you said, he probably knows already. He is either waiting until the kids are all out of the house before filing for divorce, OR, the two of them have an "arrangement" that quite possibly your dad is OK with. There are men out there who get enjoyment in knowing that their wives are fooling around with other men.

Answer 7

I would talk to your mom. Tell her how it is making you feel and that you don't think it's right. Hopefully you are positive about your accusation and if you're not just ask! Maybe you telling her how you feel will make her realize what she is doing is wrong. You never know! I'm sorry that's going on in your life though!

Keep your head up and don't be afraid to speak your mind!

Answer 8

Your mom must have her reasons. I'm not saying what she's doing is right, but she is human, and we all do what we need to do to satisfy our desires, even if it's sometimes the wrong thing to do.
Don't mention it to either of your parents. It's their business, their marriage...you are a bystander in this situation.

Answer 9

Try to find someone you trust to talk to, maybe a good friend? It could really help. But u are in a very sticky situation, i wish you the best of luck!

Answer 10

Dude, thats disgusting. If my mom my ever did something sleazy like that, i wouldnt even talk to her anymore. Thats a hoe move