What should or can I do if she does?
2007-12-10 11:29:54 · 16 answers · asked by devilish1965 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Daddy of kids is not home he is at work and I probably just got off or am still at work.Only my kids are at home,Teenager and Elemenatry-age.
2007-12-10 11:31:53 · update #1
Tried to talk to her.Her reply was and I quote " you knew when you got married that he has kids now deal with it." I told her that doesn't mean I am a built-in Baby-sitter, but she don't care.
2007-12-10 11:54:29 · update #2
There is no talking to her. She will not comply only her way matters.
I love my Step-kids and she knows that, she knows I wouldn't put them in danger. I sometimes feel like really getting nasty with her, but I am not confrontational.
Your answers so far are very helpful and really made me feel better about the sitiuation.That I am not the bad one.
2007-12-10 12:04:08 · update #3
hello, it sounds to me like your husband's ex is a jerk. she definately doesn't think about her kids being left at your house alone. also she doesn't even treat u like an equal so she is in the wrong here. u need to talk to this woman & let her know that u need some notice before she just drops off the kids at your house. if she doesn't comply then i would call up dss on her. she isn't a very good mother & it sounds to me like she's trying to make yours & your husbands life crazy by doing this to u both & your children too. this makes it very hard for those kids to even begin to like each other. she is a jerk & needs some talking to & then let her know that u will report her to the police & DSS but it sounds to me that she only thinks of herself by her actions. maybe your husband could talk to her about this problem or maybe that's what she wants him to do. i would call a lawyer up & see about what u can legally do back to her. good luck, nobrethequeen
2007-12-10 11:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by nobrethequeen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could go two ways on this. You could get technical and say she needs to have a set time for the children to visit and turn her away-or you could - let the kids stay and have a nice long talk with their father when he gets home. There really should be something in writing from the divorce that states visitation plans. If there isnt-they should be made before the kids turn 18. It sounds to me like ex-wife is just being mean and putting you in a no-win situation.
2007-12-10 11:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by techtwosue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really not sure there is anything you can do. I would call child protective services at Health and welfare and ask. They may just tell you to call a lawyer.
It isn't going to be worth it to fight in court because she may still do it.
You might try having an authority figure, like a counselor at their school, call her and tell her they shouldn't be dropped off alone. You are really going to have to find someone to back you up on this because she probably won't listen to you and your husband.
If you are concerned by them being alone, I wish you luck on this.
If they are Okay for the time (short time!!) they are alone, it might be best to just accept it, no matter how annoying it is.
2007-12-10 11:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Dreaming Dragon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No absolutely not! She should definitely call first. But even if she does call, if hubby isn't home, and you will be the one stuck babysitting, while the ex wife goes out on the town, I would tell her you care for the kids, but you refuse to be used as a babysitter, that is unless it's an emergency...
2007-12-10 11:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The three of you need to sit down and talk about this. Communication is key in this situation. Set up visitation amongst one another. She can't disrespect your home but making up her own rules. Set some boundaries. Good luck I feel for you!
2007-12-10 11:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would tell her NO, then if she decides to leave their kids and just go call CPS on her butt. You are not her built-in Baby-sitter.
Feel sorry for the kids though, what kind of a mother is she??
2007-12-10 11:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by devilish1965 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a brain in that selfish head of hers? A phone call would be nice and wouldn't cause problems Remember love me love my kids
2007-12-10 11:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by older than dirt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask her to please call before she decides she wants to drop the kids off, its only common sense. if she continues to be a butt about it talk to your husband about it and all 3 of you sit down and come to an agreement.
2007-12-10 11:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she needs to let you know.
Don't get used by the X
2007-12-10 11:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs to announce.
2007-12-10 11:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋