wife and are seperated she makes it hard to be with my kid. shes says that she doesn't know who am anymore and doesn't trust me around our daughter. our daughter is very happy to see me though. i never did anything to harm her.
2007-12-10 11:02:39 · 25 answers · asked by ace82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she also making the divorce difficult
2007-12-10 11:21:25 · update #1
You need to get a Parenting Plan in place with set times to pick up and exchange the child or she will startt tot take advantage of the situation. This you can petition through the court if you can't wait for the divorce to go through.
Your child has the RIGHT to see both parents and prohibiting it is very damaging. PAS is parent alienation syndrome, where a parent teaches the young child to forget or "disses" the other parent.
Get a notebook and start documenting it: writing down the dates and times she has interfered with the child's right to see her daddy.
Log on to the internet and look up your states laws on custody and visitation. Get smart about this and don't trust your ex. You can get 30 mins free consultation with a lawyer if you get out the yellow pages and read the adds. Call several. The person who is the best prepared, ie with the law has a better chance at justice. Unfortunatly women talk to their girlfriends and get lots of info and men don't tend to do that- so read and know your rights.
2007-12-10 15:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello
I'm very sorry to hear this.
Well I have to say that the situation of while you got divorce has lots to do with it.
It seem she lot all trust on you and I don't need to know why, you should probably do your best to make up for whatever happened.
Can't imagine how hard it could be for your children so just do your best to have your Ex wife OK.
When women get hurt or they are out of there comfort zone its very hard for us to get our life together.
PS. For your kids you should think about family therapist.
Good Luck
2007-12-10 11:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by MARITA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Brian, I hate a woman that uses the kids against the father, and that is exactly what she is doing to you. She is punishing you for something, ie. leaving or the separation, by not letting you see your daughter. Go set up child support payments yourself. It will be cheaper that way. I think you can go to the court house and do it there free. Then, get a lawyer and talk to him about times to be with your daughter. This will prove you are capable and her accusations against you will not hold up in any court after that. Good luck to you.
2007-12-10 11:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your wife needs more time to sort herself out emotionally after the breakup. One good sign though - shes not turning your daughter against you as she still is happy to see you. Just be patient and I'm sure she will eventually come around and let you have assess to the child without courts interfering. Just be nice to her. Good luck
2007-12-10 11:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by GeorgieGal25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not have hurt the daughter, but you did hurt the mother. As a person who was once caught in between fighting parents I can tell you that more than likely you and your wife don't see your child in the same way. to you your daughter belongs to both of you. to your wife your daughter is simply an extention of herself. she doesn't want to see another part of her get hurt. she just trying to protect her daughter. I know that's hard to hear, but that's the reality of it. I hope you and your wife can get past whatever seperated you.
God bless.
2007-12-10 11:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by Scarlett 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is there an actual reason not to trust you? Like drugs or something? That makes it hard to leave your kid if the person is gonna drive around or do you have disgusting friends that can be horrible influences? Otherwise, if no GOOD reason, it's a petty reason. Like the fact that you left or she's just bitter.
2007-12-10 11:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are paying child support then she cannot legally stop you from seeing your daughter if she does so then its considered child abduction and concealment. If she is making things difficult then get yourself a lawyer (female lawyer preferably) and go to court and explain the situation, you will need to provide evidence exactly how she is making things difficult
2007-12-10 11:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by DJ M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never understood why women do this. As long as you are a good parent and take care of your child, I don't see any reason ahy you shouldn't be able to see her. I think on some level they see it as a way to hurt you, but really they are just hurting the child and depriving them of a good relationship with their father.
2007-12-10 11:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your child was a part of your relationship with her. you guys are still kinda bound together no metter what and shes prolly having a real hard time with that. and prolly, at least subconciously, wants to make you feel lonely. or hurt u in some way
2007-12-10 11:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she really does think that you will hurt her child. Go to court and see about getting a child custody evaluation and get a lawyer, you'll need it.
2007-12-10 11:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋