2007-12-10 10:16:37 · 26 answers · asked by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I know it's considered "cheating," and all that. What I'm asking has nothing to do with how it's classified or what feelings it evokes. To put it another way, WHY does it evoke negative feelings? If everything in a relationship is otherwise the same, and say the person is up front about his/her cheating, then what makes it "bad"?
2007-12-10 10:26:53 · update #1
I'm not asking this because I'm trying to justify my actions or anything. I'm just digging up an old question I wondered about a long time ago.
2007-12-10 10:37:36 · update #2
Because one de-sanctifies his relationship with that other person (and I don't mean in a dogmatic way). Something that was sacred between the two of you (whether it was sexual intimacy, a certain manner of squeezing her hand, or a deep, mutual understanding you shared with this person and no one else) is no longer sacred because you've made it a commonplace thing with the "girl at the bar" that you hardly know, and are just superficially attracted to. Things lose their meaning this way.
2007-12-10 10:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's the fact that you are sharing a part of you with someone else.
In some ways having a friend of the opposite sex that you talk to at work alot or an old friend you talk to on the phone can hurt your spouse more than a physical "one time fling".
I think I could forgive, and in time forget a one night stand. But if my husband was having frequent long talks on the phone with a woman, seeing her for lunch, saying there is nothing going on, they're just friends etc. I think that type of situation would hurt me more. That's not an impulsive one nighter.
That's 2 people having a relationship.And when a husband is confiding and telling another his problems and dreams, he takes the intimacy he should share with his wife out of the marriage. Where does that leave the wife?
2007-12-10 10:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationshps always seem to end because of cheating. I have thought that perhaps an open relationship would be the way to go, but I just don't think I could handle that. Anyone can have a friendship with another person, what makes a relationship with a significant other special is the bond that being intimate creates, if you are having that with other people what is left to make it feel special for you? I am just way too jealous for that.
2007-12-10 10:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think cheating evokes negative feelings because most people who cheat do not sit down with their partners and say, ok on friday night i'm going out with another man/woman.
people who cheat, have to lie and sneak around and i think that is where the negative feelings start.
2007-12-10 23:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if its 'bad'. Doing things are rarely bad. It's the consequenses of those actions, and more importantly how you deal with those consequenses that can be bad. A 'relationship' implys a commitment, though not always the same commitment as other people. If it's understood that it's an 'open sexual' relationship, there is absolutely no way the word bad comes into it.
2007-12-10 11:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by jjoy4444 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its about trust man. How can you trust someone will not spread their legs and bring you back a new friend. Like a child or a case of herpes. Look at it like Karma. If you are a cheater. You will get cheated on. And when the shoe is on the other foot, how you gonna feel? Especially when you can't get rid of the burning sensation.
2007-12-10 10:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I wonder is...if the couple has an aggreement to be able to have getaways with another person as long as its not multiple people...and its not rubbed in the spouses faces....is it still cheating?I think its bad if people are sleeping around with everyone and as long as the whole town doesnt know(that's embarrasing)
2007-12-10 14:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by Princess Consuela B. Hammock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are lieing to the person you love, and you aren't just loving one person you love two at the same time. It makes it really mean because the person being cheated on feels like they are an extra and that there lover doesn't need them.
2007-12-10 10:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh i don't know just a little something called commitment. If u r not in an actual relationship, then u r playing the field. If u r in a relationship then u r committed and r SUPPOSE to b faithful. If u can't then u r NOT really in love and ready to make a commitment.
2007-12-10 10:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Nora G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your partner obviously agreed to some sort of exclusiveness so, if you cheat it's "bad" because your partner gets less, while you get more. Either offer your partner the same deal (and hope he/she's open- minded), or don't engage in exclusive relationships, or don't cheat.
2007-12-10 10:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by moontrikle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋