How do I tell my dad I never want to see him again?

Question

So my parents are going through a divorce and i am living with my mom, now i literly hate my dad he treats me like **** and there is no posible way to change his ways not even cousiling, anyway he always emails me and calls me and every time i talk to him i cannot find the courage to tell him to back off. Sometimes I am afraid he will be really upset and get revenge.

By treating me like **** i mean he never supports me in anything, blames everything on me, told me i am an idiot because i was telling him how i felt about how he treats me, he lies, he thinks we are the problem and he is not, he trys to control us, I do not feel any love from him because he is so focused on how much money he makes, and the list goes on.

p.s. i wrote 67 good points to why i should never see him again so that has to say something.

Answer 1

unless you have a valid reason, ie abuse i think this sounds like your mother brain washing you; bet you still want what daddy's money can buy you though.

Answer 2

When you talk to him again, tell him that you are having a hard time and you need just a little space to clear your head. Im sure you dont want to hear this,but he is still ur father, and I really dont know what hes done to you but someday things might change & you might want him in ur life later. So I would recomend limiting how much u talk to him. A couple times a month, dont answer all of his phone calls. E-mail is a little less stressful, than talkin on the phone. Let him do most of the talkin; keep things light. Try talking to a counseler for help. Like calling a hotline

Answer 3

How old are you? Depending on which state you live in (if in the U.S.) and if you are over 10 or 12, you may be able to have a say in custody, visitation, stuff like that.
Can you tell your mom or her attorney how your dad treats you and how you feel? (I know your mom is going through some difficult stuff right now. You are too. If you don't think she can handle that, talk to the counselor at school and tell them what's been going on. They can give you good advice, or find a good therapist for you so you can work all this out.)Also, if your dad has hit you in the past, or threatened to hit you and you fear "revenge", you might need an attorney (in cases like yours, attorneys for kids like you are called guardians ad litem -- "add lightem", which means your voice, needs and interests are presented before the judge.)

Good luck.

Answer 4

Why do you hate him?
is he aware that the way is treating you is hurting you?
Because, supposedly if he calls you and try and keep in touch with you that often, it's because he cares about you a lot and loves you.
It could be that he doesn't know how to express those feelings!
What happened between your parents and their reasons for divorcing each other don't have to make you choose between the two of them.
You can still love both of them.
They divorced each other, not you.
And if you're afraid of hurting his feelings, it could be because you can tell that he loves you?

So, you could actually try and talk to him.
I am sure that he'd love that.

Don't take sides between your parents.
They have to choose what's best for both of them. They're adults and they do have to make a choice as which way they see their future and who with.
But, our parents will always be our parents, no matter what.

So, unless he hurt you physically or has been emotionally hurting you, then give him a chance and let him be part of your life.
It may not feel like it now, but it's very important for you to have both parents in your life, either not to do what they did, or to do better or even to do as well as they did.
But, they are like stabilisers on bikes that we grow up with and take off later on.
So, let him be there for you and teach him how he can be without stiffling you.
xxxx

Also, parents need their children as much as children need them.
Take it from a single mum who knows.
xxxx

Answer 5

He is your father mine is gone miss him but not the way he was> So let him know that you care but it to much drama and want some space>Don't talk to him it hard to argue when only 1 is talking>Good luck>It's your mother that he's mad at and your the 1 that gets the rath>If I'm wrong than just avoid him at all costs>

Answer 6

If your father is abusive with you, then you have a right to tell him that you would rather not have any contact with him, till he cleans up his act. Don't forget, he is still your dad and always will be, he might be having personal problems that are bringing this type of behaviour to the surface.

Answer 7

Don't say things in anger that you might regret later. One day you will probably mend your relationship with him. It may be next year or it may be 10 years. You will feel differently with time. Know that many others have gone throught the exact same feelings that you are having right now.

Answer 8

Look first of all you can not hate you father he is your father he gave you life you are the only thing he has not because you mother is not with him and even though you hate him you to respect him. That is one of the 10 sacraments that you need to follow so do it. Honor thy father and thy mother and you can not hate your dad forever he loves you take care and tell your dad where he is messing up as a father and if he does not listen tell him you need to LISTEN TO ME DAD...YELL I am pretty sure he will listen.

Answer 9

I'm answering this question as a daughter who has recently lost her father. My father and I used to fight alot and I once told him that I never cared if I spoke to or saw him again. Those words haunt me to this day even though we reconciled later. I know how deeply I hurt him, and while I know he forgave me, now that he's gone - I wish that I had never spoke those words. I miss him every single day.

Answer 10

dont tell him. actions speak louder than words. make yourself scarce if that is what you really want. when he calls.. say hey buddy i got to go..sorry. or someone else is on line. but remember this is mom and dads divorce not yours. you should avoid him only becuz of the way he treats you.

Answer 11

Well if you don't want to talk to your dad anymore, then just don't! Build up the courage and tell him what you want to tell him. Even though it may not be nice. If he keeps e-mailing you and stuff, change your e-mail and maybe even your phone number!