2007-12-10 09:54:20 · 40 answers · asked by scamster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
DON'T, Don't hurt her like that she doesn't deserve it.
I know the feeling of finding out that the man you love has gone behind your back and cheated. It honestly feels like your heart is breaking into a million pieces. The inside of you just dies and after the pain goes away (which it usually doesn't, you just mask it) she will never trust you again.
It's not worth ruining your marriage over.
Please don't do it.
2007-12-10 10:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by PG with #3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, that's nice. You've been faithful for a whole seven years.
Now you think you will reward yourself with a cheap, tawdry. little fling which at best, will make your wife never trust you again, and leave doubts in her mind forever, about your fidelity, and question the foundations of your marriage.
You will humiliate your wife, destroy her self-respect, destroy her respect for you, and if it doesn't end your marriage, it will cripple it forever. Is this what you want?? Is it worth it?
What? You're bored? You see something that looks better? Or interesting? Oh Boy!! Be sure to go investigate!! NOT!
Some of you men have all the morals of an alley cat. You figure if your wife has gained 10 lbs. after having two babies, doesn't put on make-up on the weekend because she is busy cleaning the house and doing the laundry as she works full-time during the week, that she just doesn't hold your interest anymore.
Well, bucko, I've got some news for you. You, sitting in front of the TV, in a dirty T-shirt with your beer bottles lined up on the floor next to your chair is pretty disgusting. So is passing gas.
If you want some excitement in your marriage, why not plan a trip for just you and your wife? NO, not a fishing trip. A grown up honeymoon type trip to a bed and breakfast, then go antique hunting. You shave, bathe, put on good clothes. Make your plans 6 weeks prior, and let her know, so she can get her hair done, get a facial, manicure and pedicure, and buy a pretty new night gown. Don't forget to take the champagne!
Put some pizzazz in your marriage!!! Act romantic!! Don't go off looking for some one-night-stand, or cheap affair that will wreck everybodies lives.
2007-12-10 10:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the time when people want to cheat the thing that's missing is within themselves, and has very little to do with the spouse. sure it seems exciting now, like a new toy but what happens when the honeymoon stage is over with, best to Try to see what is the problem and deal with it. sounds as if your trying to run away from something, and doesn't your wife deserve a chance to make changes, before u go running away with someone new. believe me it won't be any different with the new woman after awhile, it may not even be as good as u have it now. i don't know your circumstances, but if u haven't cheated before, why start now? u need to control your impulses, realize its not love, just lust, and pray, god will find u a way out of this if its what u want.
2007-12-10 10:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!!
Figure out what is lacking in your marriage... because something must be if you are thinking about cheating. Once you figure out what is lacking, talk to your wife about it and try to come up with a way to fix it.
If you really want to cheat even after trying to do this than maybe you and your wife aren't meant to be together... Don't cheat if you want your marriage to work out because you will feel guilty and if she finds out she will never trust you again... definatly not the way to live life!!
2007-12-10 09:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by KT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great screen name! Okay, "scamster", keep it in your pants and think really hard why your married your wife in the first place!
You sound like someone I worked with (and escaped) back some years ago. Only he ended up getting divorced, and his wife was gorgeous!
If you can't remember the love, committment (know what that means?????) and passion, sit your poor wife down and make her the best offer she'll ever receive from anyone in her life -- divorce her before you kill her with some sexually transmitted disease, pay her alimony and child support and apologize for being the scumbag you are!
2007-12-10 10:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by confidentgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to cheat? Go to your wife and tell her of your feelings so you two can figure out why you are feeling the need to go elsewhere for sex. Know you both can work this out without causing her such pain again.
2007-12-10 10:32:40 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you cheat make sure that you are willing to pay the price it will cost getting caught. If you think you are not in love I say talk to her get a divorce then have a woman on the side. Cheating aint all its cracked up to be. make sure you have thought it through.
2007-12-10 10:01:33 · answer #7 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cowardly. If you don't want to be with your wife, then tell her. Then you are free to do as you wish. But don't cheat. You can't take it back. Just talk to her.
2007-12-10 09:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it..... would you like it if your wife cheated on you? Nope..... if you are going to cheat get a divorce first. The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence, its dead! been there done that and it will only hurt you both FOREVER!!!
2007-12-10 10:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't cheated on her in 7 years, what suddenly makes it ok?
2007-12-10 09:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by Pythagoras 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋