My sisters boyfriend told her he doesnt trust anyone (her included) yet he says he loves her. Is that even healthy how is that possible?
2007-12-10 09:35:23 · 7 answers · asked by ms_sweet_real 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Healthy? Prob not...the reality is you can love and not trust...the two can be independent...in regards to this situation he prob got hurt really bad at some point by a female and may not be fuly healed....thus the trust issues. He is prob capable of trusting again he just needs time and to be shown how with love and support.
2007-12-10 10:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by DWInSTL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People have radically differing notions of what "love" is, so in some limited context it's possible that he loves her yet doesn't trust her. But in my understanding and approach to loving and being loved, love doesn't exist apart from trust.
That said, it's not my place to evaluate whether this arrangement is healthy for them or not...if this works for them, all is well. Time will tell for sure.
2007-12-10 17:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not healthy. If you are in a relationship and say you are in love you must also have trust in the person you say you love
2007-12-10 18:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can absolutely feel love for someone... trust and love should go hand in hand for a relationship to work... but sometimes the trust comes later.
There are two type of people:
-Those who trust indefinitely and automatically until trust is broken
-Those who believe trust needs to be earned
In this case, I have never trusted anyone fully and completely - for me, trust needs to be earned. That does not mean I wasnt completely in love with someone... it just means that before I allow myself to become completely vulnerable, I need to be sure they will take care of me.. meaning take care of my emotions, my heart, my fears, my dreams... all of it.
Others trust easily... and though I envy those that do, I definitely know how to protect my heart better than those that do.
It takes time. You cannot love someone entirely until you know who they truly are.... and with that, comes trust.
2007-12-10 17:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by Julie S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not healthy. Tell your sister she needs to get out now. Tell her to run fast. Tell her to not look back. He might be gaining on her.
2007-12-10 17:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by Poppy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a loser-sorry for your sister.
2007-12-10 17:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no
2007-12-10 17:50:31 · answer #7 · answered by a91mtl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋