Right, my mom is getting re-married to... the guy who she cheated on my dad with. This all happened so fast and she hardly knows the guy. She cheated in such a bad way he got beaten up. My mom asked me and my sister to go to her wedding, my sister said she doesn't want to... I'm not sure. Any ideas on what to do?
2007-12-10 09:29:09 · 11 answers · asked by yeahhhh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like she is going to marry this guy whether you all like it or not. Since it is a special day for her i think you should go and hope for the best in your life and hers with this new guy.
2007-12-10 09:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother how you feel. She MAY hear you. You might save her from a huge mistake.
If her children don't want to go to her wedding and she is still going through with it, she is not thinking clearly. She is heading for disaster. Not much you can do, honey.
There is nothing much else you CAN DO.
She will probably go ahead and marry this guy, and I am so sorry.
She is in a bad place emotionally or she wouldn't have cheated on your dad, and she surely wouldn't be bringing a lying cheating POS into our home. She doesn't know if he will be a good father-figure for you or not. Surely you won't respect either one of them much, since they are cheaters.
He might even mess with your sister-or you. Watch out for such things. And report him, if he tries anything.
Try to stay off the radar, by staying out of trouble, and live YOUR BEST LIFE regardless of the mess your mother makes of hers. It will be hard, but possible.
Do well in school so you can have options of where to go when you are older.
You might even go live with your dad awhile, if you can.
Talk to a counsellor at school if you can.
Good luck.
2007-12-10 17:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to go to any weddings that you don't want to ( even if it is your mom). Just accept the fact she is remarrying, but remain neutral and show respect. Even if the circumstances are shady, honor your mom and be kind to her but don't put yourself in any circumstances, like attending a wedding, that you feel would not be healthy for you.
2007-12-10 17:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom doesn't need to have a wedding. If she's hell bent on doing this she need to just go to a justice of the peace. Don't involve others in a sham.
2007-12-10 17:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by Poppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, I don't know if I could stand it. Your mother is supposed to be the rock of the family. Did your father deserve to be divorced? If so, then there might be a difference. Otherwise, I don't think I could condone what she is doing.
I feel for you.
2007-12-10 17:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't approve of your mothers marriage to this guy you should not have to attend the wedding. In this case your mother is at fault who ruined the marriage between your father and her.
2007-12-10 17:36:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay clear and stay safe. Cheaters are cheaters. Your mom and this guy are both cheaters (they cheated on your dad), They will cheat on each other, and then things will really go bad.
Find something else to do that day.
Sorry.
2007-12-10 17:34:12 · answer #7 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is up to you try to understand your mom feelings it will be hard to do but, try to go and support your mom or don't go it is up to you. but, make sure you think on it OK...good luck
if it was me i would go but not be in it.
2007-12-10 17:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not approve of your Mom's decisions but she is still your Mom and you should be there for her.
2007-12-10 17:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and talk to your mother about how all this makes you feel.
2007-12-10 17:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by THIC007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋