I think I'm ugly and not a good person?

Question

I know I'm NOT ugly since i receive compliments from friends saying I'm pretty and cute and that I have a nice personality and lots of talents, but for some reason, I just can't see myself that way. I just picture myself as a loser in sports, ugly with my puffy hair, awkward with the clothes I wear, and I just don't see myself with anything special. Deep down, I know I'm probably NOT like that. I always want to be like something else and I know there's no such thing as being perfect, but lately, I feel like I'm not good enough and I want to be different and my mom thinks I have a low self esteem. Am I being too judgemental on myself? I don't understand why I'm feeling this way.

Answer 1

look in the mirror and say im beauitful no matter what keep saying it over and over ull feel much better i tell myslef im beauitful everyday in the mirror

Answer 2

A lot of people, especially young women feel the same way. There are many reasons. One of the reasons is that there are unrealistic standards for beauty in all of the media we see. TV, movies & magazines all feature women who are called beautiful, but who are not normal. Their beauty is often achieved by professionally applied make-up, custom wardrobe and expensive physical and dental alterations to their natural appearance. Sometimes even this is not enough, and PhotoShop is used to make them look that way. Another thing which can affect how you feel is hormonal changes. A womans monthly cycle ofter can put her through a roller-coaster ride of changes in body chemistry.
On top of all that, there is a very common problem called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), also known as winter depression, which is an affective, or mood, disorder. Most SAD sufferers experience normal mental health throughout most of the year, but experience depressive symptoms in the winter.
Check it out. I am sorry for the LONG answer, but the point is you are not messed up, and you are not alone!

Answer 3

Looks to me like the beginnings of depression, or possibly just severely low self esteem.
It's really easy to dismiss these feelings as you "being stupid" or that it's nothing, but you should speak to somebody about it, someone who will understand. If your mom is worried, maybe you could tell her how you feel, and she could help you feel better about yourself.
I've suffered from depression, and still do, so I know how hard it is to get through feeling like this. Have you had people telling you that you're useless or that you're ugly?
That can be a common trigger for low self-esteem, and can also be hard to erase without supportive people around you.

I would suggest trying to expand your activities to include more of the things that you're talented at, and do things that you enjoy. Take pleasure in your life, and don't let your bad feelings win!

Answer 4

You are DEPRESSED and you need to see a psychologist for therapy and a psychiatrist or your regular doctor to get a 'serotonin reuptake inhibitor' to lift your mood until you are through the depression. I'm sorry you feel so 'bad' about yourself, but in a way that's a 'good thing' because it tells me that it's early in your depression and that you can get HELP before it becomes a much larger problem. Tell your mom what I am writing here, and even show this to her if you can ...

Answer 5

sounds like low self esteem to me two,but you keep saying that deep down you know it's not true if that true then be your self quit worrying what other people thing of you maybe you just want are need to change your style are something get a boy friend

Answer 6

u know i bet ur beautiful and im sure u have lots of great things u have dun to be proud of. are u caring? do u share? are u there if sum1 needs to talk? i could go on and on....
u need to stop thinking ur ugly and useless and start thinkin bout the stuff u like about urself. for example, do u like ur smile? do u like ur laugh, do u like the way ppl greet u, do u like the idea u have are u creative? do u laugh at ur own jokes, r u funny? do u love anyone do they love u? think all the great things u have all the great ppl in ur life, even if its jus one person.
im sure this will make u feel a lil better bout uself.....
feel free to email me if u wanna talk, let me know how ur feelin :) good luck.

Answer 7

I have that same problem (from a dudes standpoint) and what I found helps is working out.

Seriously, once you start seeing how your body changes after a month or two of intense training, it make a big difference in ones mental outlook. Give it a try, just be willing to continue when it hurts.

Good luck to you, you sexy beast!

Answer 8

Yea... I think it sounds like you are way too hard on yourself. Just be confident in who you are and what you look like. Be happy with what you have ratrher than aspiring to be someone or something else. Maybe your Mom is right; trying doing things to increase your self-esteem.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Sounds like you are depressed. I don't know how old you are, but I'm going to guess 14 or so. This is pretty normal to go through at this age. Hang in there and talk to your Mom about how you are feeling.

Answer 10

Most of us know how you fel!
Even if not for people we know making fun of us, etc., even if not for normal self-doubt, the media makes it so much harder on us.
Looks, personality, we only want to watch certain kinds of (usually attractive) people...
Even as kids, the good people are pretty and the bad people are ugly.
It hurt to read "I feel ugly and not good."
That is waht we think since we were all kids, but it IS NOT TRUE.
So, let's separate your self-worth from your looks, first.
Read Maya Angelou. Read "Wouldn't take nothin for my journey now." Sh'es not pretty, she knows it, but she has learned to hold her head high and LIVE!
Good luck.

Answer 11

I gotta side with your friends. You're a pretty young lady and will no doubt be a beautiful women. Do some activities you enjoy, in other words be good to yourself. It's bound to make you feel better!
Good luck:)