teen on birth control?

Question

i'm 16 years old and my boyfriend and i've been...active... We both feel that its a good idea for me to go on birth control just to be more safe. However my parents have no idea that this goes on and I have a feeling they would probably die if they found out we've been intimate. How on earth am I supposed to ask my mom if she would consider putting me on the pill?????

people.
i'm not going to planned parenthood because i can't afford the pills.
i just want a basic conversation starter.

Answer 1

tell your mom you want the pill to regulate your cycle

Answer 2

I don't think its a bad idea for contraceptives to be given out in health class or at the nurses office. I think we live in a society where we don't want to talk about teen sex, teen pregnancies or about homosexuality. Its all there and its all happening whether we like it or not. We as a society should be open minded because look at what being closed minded has caused, teen sex is happening and teen sex parties were really big when I was in HS, homosexuality is very common and can't be put in the back of the closet, and teen pregnancies are on the rise and are starting at a very young age. A lot of parents and society feels that if we hand out birth control at school's than it leads to child promiscuity, well I say pre-teen sex is on the rise whether we like it or not and no condoms and birth control don't prevent STD's, but they can make some difference and why don't we start small and work our way up to something better. The problem is that these aren't provided for teen girls and teen age girls getting pregnant has become a horrifying reality.

Answer 3

I'm pretty sure you can get birth control from family planning centers without your mom. I am not an advocate of having pre-marital sex or not letting your mom in on a major part of your life. But I'd rather you prevent pregnancy than ruin your life by having an abortion. keep in mind that birth control pills do not prevent STD's and are not 100% effective, the best method is abstinence. AND your heart will eventually be broken by the choices you are currently making. No matter how much you think you love each other or how much you enjoy having sex, it will end up in heartache and depression, even if you end up spending the rest of your life with this guy you will both always wonder if you stayed together for the wrong reason (sex, not a relationship) Good Luck with your choices. Hope they lead to the opening rather than closing of doors.

Answer 4

Do you guys have any Planned Parenthood's where you live? Well, there they will give you birth control even if you are underage i believe. I get mine there but i am not under age i am 24 and have been on it for a long time cuz i too didn't want to get parent just hope this is what you really want. But I too didn't tell my mom when I first got on the pill I talked to my boyfriend's mom and she made the apt. for me to get some pills and my boyfriend took me and that's that. good luck on getting some birth control pills.

Ps: and if you CAN'T afford birth control then maybe you shouldn't be having sex. and plus Planned Parenthood is really good I don't have to pay for my pills I just give a donation every time I go.

Answer 5

Well, apart from being honest, tell her you want to go to the doctor because you have absolutely terrible cramps every month and want to see if they have anything that will help. You'll go to the doctor, the doctor will put you on birth control. The doctor SHOULD ask your mother to leave the room at some point to ask you personal questions, in which case you can be honest about it. You can also call the doctor and explain the situation before you go in for the appointment. He or she can't tell your mom, that would be betraying patient-doctor confidentiality.

Point to note though, the pill won't protect against STDs, so use a condom unless you're 100% certain that there's nothing to catch.

Answer 6

As a teen mom (very young at that) I would highly suggest to just have a open conversation with your mother. If you just go up to her and talk to her about it then I am sure she will not be mad. She would probably be very glad that you are not taking the risk anymore obviously because you don't want to be a teen parent. So I would say just ask her if she would consider putting you on the pill.

Answer 7

Im sure your mom has seen all the pregnant teens and showing her that your trying to be responsible and get bith control is great. But from someone who was 16 not that long ago i just told my mother i was sick (i said headaches) then when i went to the doctor i asked for birth control. and the doctor can't tell your parents without your premission and doctors now see so many teens who are knocked up and will give you bc with no questions asked. but you are being very smart because i know your not going to stop having sex. Also ask your boyfriend to wear condoms so you chances of contracting an STD go down. Good Luck

Answer 8

I don't know where you live, but you can get birth control pills on your own as long as you're 16 in Canada. You can also, if you wish to be sneaky about it, tell your mom that your periods are becoming painful and irregular, and if you go to the doctor, there is a high chance they'll put you on birth control to maintain regularity and reduce the pain.

Answer 9

Most Planned Parent Center give birth control to any teen who is having an active sex life.They give birth control pills without the requirement of a parent's consent.I would suggest u find a Planned Parent Center that will give u birth control pills.I am 18 years and when I was 14 i was having sex and feared getting pregnant so one of my friend's mom took me to a Planned Parent Center and i got birth control pills my mom didn't find out until 6 months ago.

Answer 10

Tell her that your periods are irregular. A lot of doctors will prescribe birth control for young women who are irregular so that the woman will become regular.

Your boyfriend should really use condoms as well as you being on birth control. We don't need another teen mother in this world. No protection is 100% effective, but the chances are extremely low if he uses a condom and you being on birth control.

Answer 11

You may be quite surprised at her response. You should tell her and talk about other methods of birthcontrol.After all the pill is not a good as it sounds. There are a lot of side affects from it. I am a mother of a teenage girl myself and I hope that when she becomes sexually active she will have enough trust in me to come and talk to me about it.Good luck in whatever you decide.