I had a bit to drink on Saturday night at a club in town, a friends husband was also out on his works xmas party and we ended up kissing, we are both married and we'd both had a bit to drink, I regret it so much, what happens now ?
2007-12-10 08:25:51 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it will be hard to have that image in your head but try to avoid this guy , try to forgive yourself, don't tell anyone about it, not anyone, and never let it happen again. both your friend and your own husband would be so broken up about it. try to move on. it's okay no one is perfect but just don't get yourself in that situation again. the consequences aren't worth it.
2007-12-10 08:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by jval 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
been there done that. Yup you will feel like **** but you will get over it. I have the benefit of hindsight. For god's sake don't mention if to a soul (am assuming no witnesses). There's an old saying that is appropriate here : 'what the eye don't see.... the heart don't grieve'. And you did only kiss..... could have been more..... You both need to let it go (assuming it was just a moment of mad lust) and agree to continue as you were before unless you are willing to face very devastating consequences for at least 2 other people you love and respect. Silly things are easily done when you've been drinking - just ask yourself the question 'would I do the same stone cold sober?' If the answer is no - follow my advice. If the answer is yes you have some very tough decisions to make - don't kiss him again until you've made them unequivocally.
2007-12-10 10:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by pippi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does your husband know you were out drinking and drunk? Was he with you? Did you go off to some dark corner to kiss? Is your husband the jealous type? I think all of that would help you determine what if anything you would want to tell him. If this was just two drunk people stumbling into each other, and one said something like I got this for you, and you had a kiss and everyone saw it I don't think it is any big deal. Probably everyone had a good laugh. It would probably been better if you had not kissed, but I don't think you need to be so concerned if that is all it was.
2007-12-10 09:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can't say what you should do since I don't really know what could happen. Some say to be honest, some say its better not to hurt the other person by telling them. But you sometimes causing more pain not telling them, then if you did. So you should do what you feel you need to do. Yahoo answers can't help on that one.
But you really should NEVER drink without your husband around! That way if you do drink, hes the one your going home with!
Good Luck
Ellie
2007-12-10 08:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why is it that when some one does some thing wrong they always say i had to much to drink . you are married do you know the meaning of being true, faith full ,loyal, i dont think you do . you have 2 choices 1 keep your mouth shut and hope your husband does not find out or tell your husband he may fore give you . i would pack your bags and tell you where to go and that is the truth.
2007-12-10 08:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by keith e 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that you tell your husband i know its easier said than done. If you do not want to tell him, try and speak to this other guy and ask him to just forget it ever happened and just carry on as if you hadn't done anything. Its not exactly cheating is it? If you can't stop thinking about this it will eat you up inside and your husband and friend will suspect.
Good Luck.
2007-12-10 09:17:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is kissing all that happened? if so, be glad it didn't go further, you're best not to tell your husband, the mistrust will be there, put it down to being worse the wear for drink, next time you see this chap, have a quiet word and say that you hope he can forget it too and keep it to himself, it should be the end of it.
2007-12-10 09:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Normally I would say honesty is always best, but on this occasion I would stay quiet. I don't think telling your husband would achieve anything, as he is likely to be extremely hurt. Sounds like you've punished yourself enough anyways. Be extra focused on your marriage, tell your husband you love him and try your best to forgive yourself.
2007-12-11 05:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by waley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens now is #1 you keep it quiet #2 If you pursue it hot passionate sex like neither of you have had with your spouses in years... You both are not receiving the attention you want and need in your marriages, call him up and say hello...
2007-12-10 08:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-15 04:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋